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Why Writers Love New York City (and Then Leave It)

Sari Botton, Melissa Febos, Mira Ptacin, and Cheryl Strayed discuss what inspired their contributions to  Goodbye to All That: Writers on Loving and Leaving New York .

In the new anthology Goodbye to All That: Writers on Loving and Leaving New York , contributors share the experience of moving to New York in pursuit of the writing life. In essay after essay, writers describe their experiences moving to New York from Long Island, New Jersey, California, and overseas. Anyone from anywhere can come to New York City in pursuit of fame, riches, and romance, and as a result, Goodbye to All That captures New York’s uniquely nuanced, overlapping landscape of cultures and geographies that for millions feels at once deeply personal and communal.

But while something deeper also reveals itself in the pages, some thread of pure accident runs through the story of each writer’s dream of making it in the big city.

Goodbye to All That features several familiar names from the Manhattan and (mostly) Brooklyn literary community, including editor Sari Botton and several other 20- and 30-something women writers. Through a series of emails, I asked Sari and contributors Cheryl Strayed, Melissa Febos, and Mira Ptacin about the differences and similarities between their experiences in the city of so many of our dreams.

In Cheryl Strayed’s essay for this anthology, “Minnesota Nice,” she writes,

I’d entered the city the way one enters any grand love affair: with no exit plan. I went willing to live there forever, to become one of the women clad in slim pants and killer shoes and interesting coats. I was ready for the city to sweep me into its arms, but instead it held me at a cool distance. And so I left New York the way one leaves a love affair too: because, much as I loved it, I wasn’t truly in love. I had no compelling reason to stay.

This is a phenomenon many of us seem to get swept up in: feeling that our relationship to the city is as alive and intimate as that of fiery, fateful lovers. What is it about New York that compels us to believe the city is a human entity unto itself: one capable of offering earth-shattering sex, endlessly stimulating conversation, and eventual transcendence, too?

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Cheryl Strayed: New York City isn't just a city, it's an idea—a projection of our fantasies and desires, like Paris or California or that beautiful person across the room. Because so many have imbued New York City with such meaning, it's hard not to be a bit over the top in one's reaction to it.

Sari Botton: You'll find earth-shattering sex, endlessly stimulating conversation, and transcendence in New York City, in great multitudes. The sheer number of people—many of whom are looking for the same things, who have similar stars in their eyes— allows for all kinds of possibility. It makes it very magnetic and alluring, like the most charismatic person you'll ever know.

Mira Ptacin: Define “earth-shattering sex.”

No, really, I came to New York City knowing nothing about it other than its reputation. It was about the fame. It was about that sentimental song wisdom. “If you can make it here, you can make it anywhere.” To me, New York was like that popular captain of the football team from high school, while I was the weirdo in orchestra class with Kool-Aid dyed red hair and a skateboard. And, for some strange reason (ego, really), I was determined to convince the football captain to fall in love with me. So it was all about the challenge.

New York did have some to do with my career, too, but it had a lot more to do with my self-esteem. I wanted to see if I could win over this great city. The thing is, it’s been my experience that some years after graduating from high school and moving on, we nerds go on to make ourselves happy and that popular football jock has a drinking problem and is still attending high school parties.

Melissa Febos: New York is an iconic place, and one of the symptoms of iconography is that we graft our identities onto that image, borrow the certainty of its familiar dimensions, at least until we find our own. Also, the city is a kind of human entity, isn’t it? What part of it is not made up of or by humans?

I think it’s natural, even useful, to have an idolized place. The Elysian Fields, heaven, New York—romanticization helps us move through the pains of the place we are in.

We idolize and worship and romanticize the people we fall in love with, and when that fantasy cannot withstand the human reality of the beloved, we either stop loving them, or begin loving them in a more complete way.

Later in “Minnesota Nice,” Cheryl writes,

In the end, I had to realize it was never meant to be. It wasn’t New York. It was me.

I found this exact sentence— It was me— in other essays; it’s a sentiment that echoes throughout the whole collection. Is there a sense that leaving New York—because one’s constitution or circumstances can no longer withstand the city’s exigencies –constitutes a failure of character?

Botton: As Mira said, brings to mind "If I can make it there, I'll make it anywhere," that famous line from Kander & Ebb's theme song from New York, New York . I think there's also a reverse corollary people subscribe to: "If I can't make it there, I won't make it anywhere," which means, I'm not so strong.

Strayed: I didn’t experience leaving New York City so much as a failure of character as an acknowledgment that in spite of its reputation, I didn't have to love this city. I didn't have to want to stay. For me it was part of growing up, of deciding to seek what I really wanted and who I really was rather than pursuing an idea of myself. I love New York City, but I don't want to live there. It was living there that taught me that.

Febos: I knew that leaving was very much like leaving a lover—a symptom not of failure, but of change.

Ptacin: In some cases, I think it’s actually the opposite of failure. In my case everything vital and healthy about me began to fall apart in New York: my inner peace, my marriage, my health, my sensitivities, my gentleness … my personality, really. But I kept insisting that I wouldn’t leave until I had made it. The thing is, once I made it to one rung on the ladder of success, there was always another rung above to reach for. And another, and another.

As I wrote in my essay, “we go to New York City to make our careers but end up stepping over homeless people on our way to work.” I never wanted to become that person. To me, losing my sensitive nature would be a failure of character. So by finally saying “fuck it” and doing what was best for me as a human as opposed to me as a brand, I think I did the hard thing but the best thing by leaving. The right thing. I am proud of spray-bottling myself in the face.

I noticed certain details starting to repeat throughout the essays, like a kind of collective nostalgia: Interesting jackets (and I know from reading Megan Daum’s essay not to call these jackets chic ), whiskey, and literary readings, as well as places like Citarella or Washington Square Park, and neighborhoods like the West Village, and Park Slope in the 1990s and early 2000s, came up over and over again. And of course brownstones were the most common motif.

When you’re away from New York, what are the details—whether they’re a place, a smell, a season, a particular kind of night sky—that transport you to a place of nostalgia?

Strayed: I love the feel on the streets, of so many people walking and talking and conducting their lives in a shared space of the sidewalk. Of course it can be the thing that annoys me about the city too, but mostly I love it. I'm always entertained by how aggressive the pedestrians are, how they step right out into the street regardless of what the traffic lights instruct them to do.

Botton: Lousy karaoke makes me long desperately for places like Baby Grand. The smell of pizza takes me right back.

Febos: Autumn. And Christmas. Though, that season and that time of year make me nostalgic for most things. I live in New York again right now, so it’s hard to get in touch with missing it. Right now, New York is my ball and chain.

Ptacin: I miss the way the city feels after a big snowstorm. Everything. Just. Stops.

I miss the food—all food, any time. I live on a small island in Maine now, and if you don’t make it to the grocery store before it closes at 8 p.m., you’re screwed.

I miss getting nervous before going out on the town. I miss going to Prospect Park very, very early in the morning and letting my dogs run off-leash before the rest of the city wakes up. I miss celebrity sightings, and I miss getting annoyed at tourists for walking too slowly. I miss the ambitious humans, and the jazz musicians.

I miss being drunk in a cab and watching the flickering skyline zip past my window while I realize, I’m in fucking New York City.

What is it about New York that compels millions of people to risk everything in order to try and make it in the city? 

Botton: It's the greatest city in the world, with the greatest assortment of cultures and culture, and a great variety of experiences that allows each person to have a different set of memories and sentiments. New York offers great opportunities at a great cost. You have to sacrifice a lot to make it there, and the pieces of the pie keep getting smaller as more people throng to it.

Ptacin: New Yorkers are willing to sacrifice and they just accept the hardships of being there by purely just being there because there is just this expectation that it will pay back. And that the harder it is, the bigger the payback will be. It’s kind of like the same sentiment behind some religions: The worse you have it, the bigger the reward will be.

How is it that—despite the projected hopes and adolescent ideals of millions of intelligent human beings—this city still manages, both in love and in tragedy, to exceed our wildest dreams? I guess what I want to know is, do you think New York is an eternal, unattainable romantic, or a deceitful, highly intelligent sociopath?

Botton: Ha! I think that when it's not working for you, you see it as the intelligent sociopath, and when there still seem to be great possibilities, it is that elusive, perfect romantic ideal that you keep striving for.

Ptacin: It’s both! For many people it is livable and it does pay back and make people happy, and for some you just can’t get it to be empathetic or sympathetic. It can flip from romantic to sociopath at the drop of a hat.

In her essay “My City,” Dani Shapiro writes about returning to the city for a visit, years after leaving for Los Angeles. Upon returning, Shapiro takes a taxi with her husband, to the hotel where they’re staying. She communicates a fear of finding herself in New York City not as a New Yorker, but as a tourist. Do any of you share this fear? Have you ever returned and felt like you were a tourist in New York City?

Botton: This is a great source of anxiety for me. It’s why I carry a Metrocard, and refuse to trade in my 646 cell phone area code for an 845. Moving out of New York City incited sort of an identity crisis in me. Intellectually, I believe that you can never return to being a tourist, or "bridge and tunnel," as I once was, growing up on Long Island. I believe that once you’re a New Yorker you're always a New Yorker. But try telling me that when I try to make plans to meet someone at a favorite old haunt, and the person I'm making plans with, who still lives there, says, "Um... that went out of business five years ago, and has been replaced by a Duane Reade."

Strayed: I return to the city often, and I do feel like a tourist. I don't think I ever got over that feeling when I was living there, actually. I lived there for less than a year and the place felt so different from any other place I'd ever lived that I never truly felt like a New Yorker. I don't mind being a tourist.

Melissa, it may be impossible to predict, but do you think you’ll move away from New York again?

Febos: I do. I’ll admit, this answer is colored by the fact that I am in love with someone who lives 2,500 miles away from New York, but independent of that, my commitment to New York is not what it used to be. The list of reasons to leave New York grows slowly but steadily as I age. That said, having lived here for nearly all of my adult life, it’s hard to imagine New York not being my home, at least in some part.

By the same token, do the rest of you ever imagine yourselves returning to the city?

Strayed: I don't. I live in Portland, Oregon. It's the best city in the world. Don't tell anyone.

Ptacin: HELL TO THE NO. Unless I become a bazillionaire.

Botton: I said this in the intro to the collection, I've said it in several interviews, and I hold it to be true: If I win the lottery, I am so there.

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20 Things I Wish I Knew BEFORE Moving to New York City (Firsthand Account)

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Are you thinking about moving to New York City? I think I can help. I moved to the Big Apple 10 years ago and would like to share everything I learned during the process. My hope is to make moving to NYC easier on you.

Longtime readers of this website know that I’m not one for small talk (like, I’m not here to regale you with stories of my great-grandmother’s famous chicken noodle soup). So let’s just cut to the chase and cover everything you need to know about moving to New York City.

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My sister is considering moving to NYC and asked this question six months ago. (Cue worst answer ever: it depends). The answer varies vastly depending on your standard of living. If you want to indulge in all the city offers, your savings account will need to act accordingly. If you’re keen to living a minimalist lifestyle, you can get by with less in your bank account before moving to the Big Apple.

However, my general recommendation for anyone seriously considering moving to New York City is to save a minimum of $20,000. Finding an apartment in NYC won’t come cheap and almost all landlords require first & last month’s rent in addition to a security deposit (the equivalent of one month’s rent) up front.

Average rent for a one-bedroom apartment in my neighborhood (the Upper West Side) is $3,000 per month (I weep as I type this). Which means I forked over $9,000 just to move into an apartment in NYC, including a non-negotiable $3,000 broker fee (still crying).

Broker fee? Oh yes , we’re definitely covering that sneaky bugger below. Like I said, read on to learn everything you need to know about moving to New York City, without fluff.

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Things to Know Before Moving to New York City

I believe in New Yorkers. Whether they’ve ever questioned the dream in which they live, I wouldn’t know, because I won’t ever dare ask that question. Dylan Thomas

Things to Do Before Moving to NYC (Table of Contents)

The neighborhood matters more than you think, let’s talk about the notorious broker fees, searching for an apartment in new york city is a bear, a (super) helpful tip we learned during our apartment search:, you must (must, must) tour the apartment in person, give yourself up to 2 months to find an apartment, brace yourself : the application process is next level, airing your dirty laundry, moving to new york city in the summer forget about it, let’s talk about air conditioners and heaters, living in new york city is so (damn) expensive it’ll make you cry, have a job lined up before moving to nyc, not all grocery stores are created equal, you won’t need a car when moving to nyc, new york is a very active city, the city is inspiring (almost makes you feel invincible), you’ll have access to world-class museums, you’ll be spoiled for choice with food options, living in nyc may ruin all other cities for you, it’s normal to get depressed after moving to nyc (yes, really), be gentle on yourself: if you hate living in nyc, don’t feel pressured to stay, love new york city you might enjoy these articles too.

I know, understatement of the century, right?

But before I get flack, I’d like to point out that I am indeed aware of the importance of a neighborhood regardless of the city you move to. However, I didn’t appreciate how true this is in NYC specifically until my husband and I started touring apartments in various neighborhoods.

Waking up in the East Village will feel vastly differently from daily life in the Upper East Side. I swear, NYC neighborhood are different planets. If helpful, here’s my personal list of the best neighborhoods in Manhattan .

Your budget will afford you drastically different living arrangements based on the neighborhood you choose. It was really eye-opening for us. For example, $3,000 will get you a decent one-bedroom in the Upper West Side and questionable living quarters (at best) in SoHo.

We toured a shoe-box apartment in SoHo and couldn’t get out fast enough! The light was non-existent and the bathroom wall was torn down (exposing the dusty pipe I’d be starting at while getting ready in the morning, no thanks).

The icing on the cake was the dead cockroach in the kitchen, it felt like he was sending a smug message from the afterlife, “wrong zip-code, try further north, honey.” All this to say, know yourself well moving to New York City. What do you want daily access to? What’s most important to you (restaurants, museums, proximity to work, etc.)? What are you willing to sacrifice for location?

New Yorkers understand the significance of broker fees like no one else. But folks moving to New York City for the first time are always caught off guard by them. So, what exactly is a broker fee?

Broker fees are an infamous NYC practice where renters are required to use brokers to tour apartments. Basically, you can’t tour an apartment and/or request an application for an apartment without going through a broker.

When you find an apartment you you like, you are then expected to pay the broker the equivalent of one month’s rent or 15% of the annual net rent. In our case the apartment was $3,000 so we had to pay a brokers fee of $3,000. However, when my sister finally moved to NYC, her broker fee for a $3,000 apartment was $5,400 because she was subjected to the “15% of annual net rent” rule instead, ouch .

This non-negotiable fee is in addition to a security deposit and one/two months rent. The strangest thing about the broker fees in NYC, in my opinion, is that you’re still solely responsible for researching and finding an apartment. I’m not exaggerating when I tell you that the broker merely opens the door — alas, they hold the golden keys.

But that’s the thing about living in New York City, you quickly learn to adapt to unusual order of things. That’s the way it works in the Big Apple, the rules don’t change for you, you have to adjust your expectations (and write those big checks).

Broker fees are currently being litigated in court but until the issue gets resolved, you’ll need to budget for them before moving to NYC. Note: large apartment buildings don’t have broker fees. The general rule of thumb is this: if the building has an apartment, there probably won’t be a broker fee.

Finding an apartment in any city feels like a daunting task, but NYC takes the cake. I’ve lived in two large cities prior to moving to NYC, but finding an apartment in New York City was by far the most challenging. Competition is steep and prices are sky high.

The best website for finding an apartment in New York City is StreetEasy . But because supply is limited, it’s easy to get addicted to the search. We were glued to the screen 24/7 for 4 weeks, refreshing the page every ten minutes while searching for a place to call home.

Likewise, the competition is steep. Most of the places we toured with other couples looking for an apartment. This added a super-stressful element to the process, especially when we toured apartments we really loved, some days it just felt hopeless! But you need to preserve (living in NYC is worth it!).

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One helpful tip my husband and I discovered while searching for an apartment was asking the broker for an application before touring the unit. We would then complete the application and submit it to the broker before visiting the apartment. Since we didn’t pay the broker fee while applying, the application was deemed “incomplete” but gave us the unique advantage of being the first people to “technically” apply for the apartment, giving us a leg up over the competition.

When we ( finally ) found the apartment we loved most, we simply sent over the application fee ($25, if I recall correctly) and got first dibs. Because we had everything completed beforehand, we were the first to submit the required documents and got the apartment.

The downside of this advice is that you’ll be providing sensitive information and sharing it with a lot of brokers. We had to share our bank statements, W2, tax filings, etc. every time we applied. If this is something that you’re not comfortable with, trust your gut! It worked out well for us and our information was safe even after nine applications.

Seriously, believe me on this one. I can’t tell you how many times I toured an apartment and found myself genuinely convinced I stepped into the wrong one.

For example, one apartment we toured has blue kitchen cabinets, which was odd because the photos showed white kitchen cabinets. Perplexed, I asked the broker about the kitchen and she mentioned that brokers sometimes use stock photos when posting apartment photos. Excuse me, what ?

Moral of the story — NEVER sign a lease sight unseen unless you like surprises…especially bad ones. Think about it, we toured 9+ apartments and would have been severely disappointed if we signed a lease for any of them based on the photos alone.

Plus, when you tour the apartment in person you’ll get a better feel for the building and neighborhood as a whole. One of the apartments we toured was nice enough, but the mouse traps in the building made it hard to seal the deal (so glad we didn’t go with that apartment!).

So I went to New York City to be born again. It was, and remains, easy for most Americans to go somewhere else and start anew. I wasn’t like my parents. I didn’t have any supposedly sacred piece of land or shoals of friends to leave behind. Kurt Vonnegut

This is a tall ask, I get it, but I’m offering my honest advice for moving to New York City. We subleased an apartment for one month during our search and that was a game changer for us. By allowing ourselves a full month to search for an apartment, we were able to ease up the stress substantially.

I knew I wouldn’t feel comfortable signing a year-long lease sight unseen (at the time we were living on the west coast). I made sure to budget living in NYC for a full month while searching for a place to call home (another reason why a strong savings account is crucial).

Local’s Advice: I suggest checking Craigslist for sublease options or searching for long term (30+ days) AirBnB rentals. Note: short-term Airbnbs are illegal in NYC, but a long-term stay of 30+ days is allowed.

The application process for an apartment in NYC is incredibly intrusive, and it varies from one landlord to the next. One of the landlords asked for 2 years of tax records, three pays stubs, a letter of employment, letter from a previous landlord and screenshots of all savings/checking accounts.

Basically everything except for a blood sample and the beautiful locks of hair from your firstborn child.

The reason? Most New York landlords require that your annual income be 40 times greater than the monthly rent. Here’s how it works — take your monthly rent and multiply it by 40. Put another way, if you’re applying for an apartment that costs $3,000 per month, your income needs to be $120,000 ($3,000 x 40).

If that’s confusing, fret not. Here’s a great resource for helping you calculate what you can afford when moving to New York City.

I mean this literally but if you took it figuratively, I’m intrigued.

It never occurred to me to ask about laundry prior to moving to New York City. It wasn’t until we stayed in NYC for a month prior to moving here that I thought to ask about the laundry. The answer? Walk it to the nearest cleaners and pay them to wash and fold it for you.

Granted, you may be able to find self-service laundry not too far from your place, but even then the prices really add up. I found a self-service laundromat three blocks from my apartment and pay $10 per large load of laundry (the equivalent of 3 regular loads).

If I’m pressed for time and request the wash + fold service, I typically pay $20 per laundry bag. The price depends on the weight of your laundry. Yeah, your laundry bag will get weighed on a scale. It’s an interesting world we live in, my friends.

In L.A. everyone wants to find themselves, in New York we just want to find an apartment with a washer/dryer.

One of the most important things to know before moving to New York City is that there’s a prime time for finding an apartment. Not only is NYC’s rental market comically expensive, but it actually gets worse in the summer because that’s when most folks move to the city.

Which makes sense when you think about it – college students moving to the city, college grads starting jobs in the fall after graduation, etc. Summer is by far the most competitive time to find an apartment in New York City. Inventory is low, causing prices to surge.

Do whatever you can to avoid moving to New York City between June – September. This will improve your chances of finding a decent place and you won’t be subject to summer’s surged prices. If helpful, I did extensive research on this topic before and learned that winter is the best time to move to New York City, especially February – March.

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Frankly put, you can’t live in New York City without an AC unless you’re a glutton for punishment. The summer heat and humidity is no joke so you’ll want to budget for an AC before moving to New York City.

Air conditioners range between $300 to $1,000 depending on the model you get, so make sure you’re aware of the expense. If helpful, here’s the brand we use at home . It might seem funny to mention budgeting for an AC on this list, but expenses add up! You might think $300 is no big deal now, but a few months of paying sky-high rent might change your mind.

As for heaters, most buildings in NYC run on steam heat, which is provided by the landlord. In our building we don’t pay for heat, which saves so much money during the winter. But a common gripe among New Yorkers is having to crack windows open even in the dead of winter. That’s because steam heat isn’t possible to control, as it typically has two settings: on and off.

To ventilate the heat, most people open their windows. But at the end of the day, it’s really nice to have steam heat, even if the thing is trying to bake you to death.

Obviously you already know that New York City is expensive but did you know it’s the most expensive city in the world ? I mention this because you need to have a lot of money or a foolproof game plan before relocating to New York City.

If you don’t have either, at least get a decent data plan because your mother will be getting a lot of phone calls. Everything is going to cost so much more when living in New York City. From groceries to entertainment and rent. Heck, sometimes it feels like just waking up in NYC will run you $400.

To that end, let’s cover the next thing you should know about moving to New York City — the importance of landing a job.

Every year, thousand of bushy-tailed hopefuls move to New York City with stars in. The problem? They don’t have a job lined and simply hope for the best. But I’m here to tell you any proper NYC moving checklist will require having a job secured.

The bigger problem? Job competition is steep (NYC is the most populous city in the country) and you’ll probably burn through your savings account faster than expected if you don’t find something quickly.

You can’t truly enjoy living in New York City if you don’t have a decent paying job because you won’t be able to take advantage of all the city offers. Which is why I can’t stress this enough — have a job before moving to New York City, don’t make excuses not to.

Don’t take the chance of winging it with the hopes that some company will see how special you are. In reality, you might be one of thousands of applicants. Do the leg work before your move to set yourself up for success before settling in New York City long-term.

Here’s one of my best tips for moving to New York City, not all grocery stores are created equal. During my first month in NYC I made the mistake of shopping for groceries at Citerella and walked out completely confused. I paid $6 for one container of chicken stock (one container!!).

I had no idea that Citerella was such an expensive grocery store and learned my lesson quickly. After that I started doing research on grocery stores and made a commitment to Trader Joe’s. Did you know that Trader Joe’s has the same prices for all items regardless of the location?

That means that the snacks you buy at a Trader Joe’s in Oregon will cost you the same in New York City. Trader Joe’s is probably one of the most affordable grocery stores in NYC and I’d recommend shopping there exclusively when possible.

The downside of shopping at Trader Joe’s is that half of NYC will be shopping with you. The Traders Joe’s in the Upper West Side is the busiest in the world and if you try shopping anytime after 10am, you’ll find yourself in a very long line.

Helpful New York City Relocation Tips: Know about Costco online! I stock up on pantry staples like chicken stock, beans, nuts, snacks, etc. Buying in bulk saves money in the long run and prevents you from having to make a trip to the grocery store. Plus, you don’t have to be a Costco member to shop online, which is really nice.

Perhaps the biggest perk of moving to NYC is not needing a car to get around. Which means you’ll be leaving behind the hefty expense of gas, maintenance, auto insurance and parking.

In fact, not needing a car is the only thing I can think of that actually saves you money when moving to New York City. The subway system is very efficient (even though everyone loves to hate on public transportation). The subway will get you where you need to go 24/7 for $2.95. Plus, some employers provide monthly subway passes.

All this to say, sell your car if you’re planning a move to New York City. The hassle is too great and the benefit it too little. If you bring a car you’ll be spending most of your time in traffic anyway, plus you’ll have a very hard time parking. Parking is very expensive in NYC, and if you park your car in a residential area then you’ll need to move it once or twice a week for street cleaning (along with everyone else on the block).

One thing you quickly learn after moving to New York City is how active people are. And no, I’m not just talking about Mr. Washboard Abs running the six-mile loop in Central Park at 5am (tell him I say hello, he’s hard to miss). I’m talking about regular people (like you and me).

New Yorkers walk, bike and subway everywhere they go (because a lot of us don’t have cars). Expect your daily step count to go through the roof when you’re transitioning to daily life in New York City.

When you live in NYC, you don’t pay for space, you pay for access. Put another way, people move to NYC to experience the glory of daily life, not stay cooped up in a small apartment.

Essentials for Moving to NYC: Make sure you have a quality pair of walking shoes ( this is the brand my podiatrist recommends ).

It’s probably no surprise that with more than 200+ languages spoken on a daily basis, the habits, food and dress reflect the vibrant diversity of life in New York City. In fact, New York City is the most diverse city in the country.

In many ways, it feels like there’s zero judgement in daily life. I feel like I can be whoever I want to be, seriously . No matter what I do, I don’t stick out (which has so many benefits). What’s more, the age-old adage “New York City: If You Can Make it Here, You Can Make it Anywhere” rings true.

There’s something contagious about the energy in New York City. Whenever I feel burned out, the city streets recharge me. It seems like people that move to NYC do so to follow their dreams, and I can’t help but hustle at the thought of that.

Perhaps my favorite thing about living in New York City is having access to world-class museums. New York City is home to a whopping 83 museums, including the fifth largest museum in the world , The Metropolitan Museum of Art (colloquially known as the MET).

You’ll be hard pressed to find a more culturally exciting city than New York. For example, my friend starts every weekend by exploring a museum with her kids and at the rate she’s going, her kids will see more world-renowned art by the age of 7 than most people do in a lifetime!

Further Reading: The 15 Most Exciting Museums in New York City (& What to See at Each)

New York City is a melting pot of different cultures which makes you privy to the best-of-the-best regarding all types of cuisine. After living in New York City, it’s hard to find other cities that satisfy my cravings for good food all hours of the day.

I mean, let’s get real real, you haven’t lived until you find yourself with a hot bowl of award-winning ramen at 1am. But fair warning, you’ll never be the same.

Further Reading:

• 10 Memorable Manhattan Bars Everyone Should Visit
• 10 EPIC NYC Pizza Joints You Can’t Afford to Miss
• 15 Mouth-Watering New York City Bagels

P.S. I’m working on a post about the best cheap eats in NYC, stay tuned! Or better yet, sign up for our email list to be notified when it’s wrapped up. We hate spam as much as you do, so we only send emails once a month.

If you’re researching how to move to New York City then you probably have a soft spot for the City that Never Sleeps. Speaking from firsthand experience, moving to New York City was the best decision I’ve ever made. The city feels as good as it looks, and I can’t imagine leaving.

Why do I mention this? Because you should know that NYC ruins all other cities. I feel like I’m forever stuck paying astronomical rents and justifying $30 drinks. In fact, it’s not until I return home for the holidays that I find myself genuinely shocked when I see the prices outside of NYC. I forget that $30 for a drink is not normal! But would I ever move out of NYC? I couldn’t dream of it.

If you want to become a real New Yorker, there’s only one rule: You have to believe New York is, has been, and always will be the greatest city on earth. The center of the universe. – Ellen R. Shapiro

If I were to write a Newcomer’s guide to New York City, I’d start by sharing a recent discovery: A lot of people feel depressed after moving to New York City. This might seem counterintuitive (dream attained!), but it’s true (and it makes sense when you think about it).

Moving to NYC is a huge life change. There’s no other city in the world quite like it, and there’s a lot of anxiety that comes with the territory. It’s not uncommon to have sleepless nights and the daily weight of stress while living in NYC — can I afford to pay the bills? My credit card bill is how high? Did I really just spend $30 on a drink?

It takes time to get adjusted to a new rhythm, don’t hesitate to get help. Transitioning to New York City is tough, go easy on yourself. My best advice is to establish a routine that reflects what you found comforting before.

For me, I now start every morning with a walk. It helps clear my head and allows me to enjoy the city I spend too much money to live in. I’m also making an effort to meet new people and make new friends. Little changes make a big difference.

New York, I love you but you’re bringing me down.

Finally, allow me to share my last bit of wisdom — you’re not a tree. You don’t have roots, you can move around. If you find that living to New York City doesn’t jive with you as expected, give yourself some permission to leave.

The city is not for everyone and some folks discover that only after moving to NYC. There’s a lot of opportunities here, to be sure, but there’s also a lot of pressure. And noise.

Millions of people have moved to New York City to restart (or start) their lives and there’s absolutely no reason why you can’t do the same. Of those millions that moved to NYC, millions have moved out as well.

Give life in NYC an honest try, but give yourself some grace if you discover that you enjoy a different pace of life. The city will always be here when you return, and so will New York Simply (shameless, I know). 😉

Important Things to Know Before Moving to NYC (Post Overview)

In summary, here’s a recap of this New York City moving guide, I hope it makes relocating to NYC easier on you!

• The neighborhood matters more than you think
• Get familiar with broker fees
• Searching for an apartment in New York City is a bear
• You must (must, must) tour the apartment in person
• Give yourself 1-2 months to find an apartment
• The application paperwork is next leve
• Airing your dirty laundry
• Moving to New York City in the summer? Forget about it
• Let’s talk about ACs and heaters
• New York City is so damn expensive it will make you cry
• Have a job lined up before you move here
• Not all grocery stores are created equal
• You won’t need a car when moving to NYC
• NYC is an active city
• The city is inspiring and makes you feel invisible
• You’ll have access to world-class museums
• And incredible food almost 24/7
• Leaving New York City will feel impossible
• It’s normal to get depressed after moving to NYC
• If you hate living in NYC, don’t feel pressured to stay

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I feel like moving to New York City aged me prematurely. But honestly, I’m happier for it. I’m living in a dream and hope you can too. I hope you found these tips on moving to New York City helpful, don’t hesitate to reach out with questions below, always happy to help.

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April 27, 2022 at 12:12 pm

Thank you for sharing these tips! I moved to NYC almost 10 years ago. I moved there in the dead of summer with complete blind faith. I did stay in an Air BnB for about a month in the Bronx while I looked for a permanent place in Brooklyn. Brooklyn is amazing and I always wanted to live there. Living in one of the boroughs is a more affordable option. It’s still expensive, but it’ll get a lot closer to NYC than your average hometown. Lol. I also didn’t realize how blessed I was to move there without a job and find one within a month. Again, good ‘ol faith and great timing. Your article caught my eye because I’m seriously considering moving back up there. I’m a Florida girl, but I can’t seem to shake NYC. I know that I’ll have to do things differently this time, but I hope to make NYC home again. Thanks for sharing!☺️

April 28, 2022 at 8:01 am

Hey there, sounds like moving back to NYC is on the horizon for you, how exciting! I agree with your sentiments around not being able to shake NYC. I swear, this city has ruined all other places for me (sounds terrible to say out loud, but it feels true). Hard to imagine being this content elsewhere, I sincerely hope you can move back to NYC, seems like your kind of place. Cheers to you!

June 26, 2022 at 6:58 pm

My daughter has lived in NYC for 10 years, and your article is spot on especially with respect to apartment hunting and all that goes with it. I go there a lot and can attest to most of the other things you said.

June 28, 2022 at 10:58 am

Thanks for sharing your input, Jane! Always lovely to hear other folks agree with the tips. I’m determined to share honest/real advice without fluff, so your comment means a lot to me. Cheers to your daughter!

September 2, 2022 at 1:13 am

Wish I had read this before our recent apartment hunt in NYC! It was so difficult and we literally had to shed like 18k to move in! Insane!! I can’t wait to make the city my new home tho

September 4, 2022 at 2:57 am

What?! 18k, how!! Tell me more! Glad the tips were helpful, hope you enjoy living in New York City, it’s such a special place!

January 2, 2023 at 9:51 am

I grew up in Brooklyn then moved around during my career. Now thinking of going back to my roots. Any specific advice for a 65 year old native starting the journey home.

November 18, 2022 at 7:46 am

Thanks so much for sharing these valuable tips!

November 19, 2022 at 10:56 am

It was my pleasure Lea!

December 14, 2022 at 3:57 pm

can lower the rent in new york city please.

December 14, 2022 at 8:16 am

If only we had the magic wand, would do it in a heartbeat!

January 16, 2023 at 9:58 pm

That was great

January 18, 2023 at 8:13 am

Thanks, Andrea!

February 27, 2023 at 11:47 pm

Thank you so much, it’s always been a dream of mine to move to New York since I was a child. I’ve visited a few times and now feel like I’m ready to make the dream come true. This helps me in preparing for the move I appreciate it!

November 30, -0001 at 12:00 am

Hey Mel, glad you found it helpful, it was a pleasure to write it!

April 20, 2023 at 1:52 am

I’m considering moving to NYC by the end of the year. This post is very helpful! Thank you so very much!

April 21, 2023 at 10:52 am

Thanks for the kind words, Jared!

October 4, 2023 at 12:53 pm

Nice article. Although I found it was missing a personalised touch of where you moved from and what sector you work in. Also the cockroaches, bedbugs &rats are the most dominant inhabitants of the city. And cross referencing the sex offender map with markers (available online) with your rental is a must. Although it only shows those that were caught and are living in that area. Always good to know your possible neighbors right? The city is falling apart and the infrastructure is a catastrophe waiting to happen. Inside the buildings/apartments the materials used are not healthy at all. People like to see this place through the pink glamorous shades of hope…it’s just delayed disappointment. So many mentally ill aggressive homeless people not to forget.

January 13, 2024 at 1:50 pm

Wow, that was actually very helpful information. I moved to NYC during Covid and a lot of the things you mentioned applied. However, finding an apartment was much easier. My landlord raised the rent so I’ll be moving to a new apartment and this info helped. Thanks!

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Real Women Share What They Wish They Had Known Before Moving to NYC

Maybe moving to New York City is just a dream. Or, perhaps, you’re already laying the groundwork to relocate to the Big Apple in the not-too-distant future. As someone who lived in NYC for two years after college, left, and then came back following a career shift six years later, I’ve found that the city is equal parts magical and exhausting. It all depends on the day! But as I write this from my Manhattan apartment with taxis whizzing by outside my window, I have to say that I personally can’t imagine a better place to live.

Still, considering a move to one of the largest cities in the world is no small decision. As with any pivotal life choice , it’s best to go with your gut. Don’t base your decision solely on what you see on Instagram or in the movies. One thing that may make you feel more confident in your choice? Hearing firsthand from seasoned city dwellers . So, I asked 14 women to share what they wished they had known before moving to New York. They weren’t shy about sharing both the good and the bad. Read on to hear their advice for wannabe New Yorkers.

Activities and Socializing

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NYC isn’t as lonely as people make it seem.

“One of the first things I heard was to be prepared that New York can be a lonely place . So for anyone who’s heard that or is nervous to move because of that, let’s clear something up. New York can be lonely—as much as any city can be. It can also be anything but. You will have a relationship with this city that is unlike any relationship you’ve ever had. If you’re ever lonely, leave your apartment and walk outside. Have a date night with NYC . It is one of my favorite pastimes, having lived in New York City for over a decade!” — Meghan Donovan of @meghandono

Plus, the city is full of affordable things to do, even if you’re solo.

“Despite being insanely expensive overall, there are myriad free things to do in New York on any given day, at any given time. New York is a beacon of music, art, and culture, and you don’t have to go to Broadway to find it. (Although if you do, TodayTix is your friend, and you can—and should—enter the ticket lottery to snag $25 day-of tickets!) Hop the subway to Coney Island, or take the train to Rockaway, and voila! A beach day for $2.75. Take in an outdoor movie at Prospect Park, and marvel at the big screen from your picnic blanket. Take the IKEA ferry to Red Hook and wave to Lady Liberty for a mere $5 (free if you show your IKEA receipt on the way home). Stroll along the Hudson and people-watch, or sit outside the perimeter of SummerStage and listen to a ‘free’ show. It’s easy to feel lonely when you move to a big city, but New York makes the greatest date around.” — Sarah Jacobson of @_thegrandapt

“Utilize free resources to see the city. There are tons of free things happening in NYC every week! Sign up for pulsd.com emails, follow IGs like @nyc_forfree , and utilize MTA subways, ferries, and buses to get around.” — Kerry Sorenson of @uesthings

But you don’t have to do everything at once.

“So many of us move to New York, take in our surroundings and the bevy of culture and activities that await, and think, ‘Oh my God, I can never stay in again!’ Whether you’re a partier or a book clubber or somewhere in between (yours truly is an in-betweener), it’s easy to get swept up in all New York has to offer and burn out fast . Remember that while having a ‘yes’ mentality is a great way to get to know your city and make new friends, it’s OK to rest sometimes, too. Don’t underestimate the power of a night (or more!) in. The city will still be here, moving at lightning speed, when you return.” — Sarah Jacobson of @_thegrandapt

“I wish I knew that the best nights out were the ones on a couch with close friends. I spent way too much time waiting in line for clubs that didn’t live up to the hype and way too much money on $25 martinis!” — Liz Ukpe of @onsundayswe

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NYC is full of people who come and go.

“For some, NYC is just a temporary stepping stone. So if you move to New York with hopes of staying here for the long run, just know that your friend circle will change every few years.” — Rozit Arditi of @arditidesign

That said, meeting people isn’t too difficult.

“One thing I wish I knew before moving here is how easy it is to meet people—easier than in other cities, in my opinion. There are always people looking for friends in New York. I was scared my husband and I wouldn’t have many opportunities to be social since we didn’t know many people before moving. But that hasn’t been the case at all. My best advice for meeting people in NYC is to say yes to everything. There will always be a friend of a friend you can connect with. There will always be random opportunities for events and gatherings with new faces, so say yes!” — Katelyn Sailor of @katelynsailor

“Now that the city is back to life, I made a vow to never take it for granted. I make it a point every weekend to try a new restaurant, attend a fun event, or hang out with friends. I’ve met some of my closest friends by attending events by like-minded communities and putting myself out there!” — Breanna Young of @breannainbrooklyn

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Be prepared to be patient.

“Finding an apartment will be an experience like none other. Looking for the right fit at the right price in New York can be frustrating, competitive, and extremely time-consuming. And once you get to a point where you can sign a lease, you typically need to put in the first month’s rent and a security deposit. Plus, you need to make a certain amount times your rent (or provide a guarantor that makes even more). There are a lot of hoops to jump through! I’ve moved five times in New York and like to think I’ve cracked the code, but even then, it’s tough. Don’t get discouraged and remember that it takes time to learn and become an expert.” — KC Cibran of @thecasaverde

“When I was on an apartment hunt, I used to see several units every single day for a week or two. The apartments go very fast, but a lot of rentals or sublets don’t even let you contract unless it is for the upcoming month, so it was impossible to plan way in advance. There are so many factors to consider, and you’ll have to choose the ones that matter the most to you! It’s a pretty stressful process, but once you sign for the ‘home’ you’ll have for a year or two, the life you’ll have in NYC is one you’ll treasure forever!” — Erica Choi of @eggcanvas

Compromise is key.

“You’ll almost always have to ‘give’ on something when it comes to finding an apartment. Spend some time listing out your non-negotiables and also what you’re willing to accept. For example, maybe a short walk to the subway is a top priority for you, but you’re willing to give up lots of natural light.” — Kerry Sorenson of @uesthings

Do your research before selecting a neighborhood in which to live.

“If you have no idea what neighborhood you want to live in, then prioritize distance from either friends or work. But make sure to take time to walk around the area before settling on something. Talk to people living in New York already regarding neighborhood vibes and the pros and cons of each neighborhood.” — Meghan Donovan of @meghandono

Walk-up life can get exhausting.

“The view and natural light from a fifth-floor walk-up may be amazing, but it never gets easier climbing those stairs—especially with pets!” — Sydney Callands of @sydddcal

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Small, “just because” purchases aren’t insignificant.

“The under-$15 purchases add up. Whether it’s oat milk lattes, Juice Press smoothies, or Sweetgreen salads—they add up! Set a limit for these types of purchases.” — Kerry Sorenson of @uesthings

Money can feel tight, especially early in your career.

“I actually wish I waited two to three years and saved up a lot more money before moving here. I don’t have any regrets now, but when you’re starting out in your career, paying rent, buying groceries, having a social life, and trying to save money and invest on a starter salary is nearly impossible.” — Liz Ukpe of @onsundayswe

Day-to-Day Life

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The city is full of highs and lows—and inconveniences—but it’s all worth it.

“Everything is more difficult and more expensive in New York. That includes the simplest of tasks: washing dishes, doing your laundry, getting to the airport, going grocery shopping , finding an apartment, etc. All have an extra layer (or two) of complication. The highs of living in New York are high. You’re truly at the center of the universe, with access to the best of everything, and the city has unmatched energy. But I believe to be happy here long-term, you have to be someone who really loves the highs and won’t let the lows rattle you. Otherwise, all the extra hassle just won’t be worth it.” — Diana Pearl of @dianaspearl

“One of the things I wish I knew before moving to New York is just how worth every sacrifice it is. When looking at apartments for the first time, it’s easy to be worried about not having laundry or a dishwasher or having half the square footage you might have elsewhere. But those minor inconveniences pale in comparison to the magic life New York brings. While there will always be difficult things about living here, it is such a unique and special experience you will never regret.” — Katelyn Sailor of @katelynsailor

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The city is extremely fast-paced. Slow down a bit!

“Even when you’re not in a rush, you will still be in a rush. Remember to stop and breathe every once in a while because New York is beautiful, so soak it up while you can!” — Sydney Callands of @sydddcal

“NYC welcomes you as who you are and where you are in life, but it also wears you out faster than any city in the world.” — Rozit Arditi of @arditidesign

“The main thing I wish I knew about NYC before moving here is that it’s easy to become defined by your job or career. People in NYC tend to be ambitious and hardworking, often moving from all over the world to pursue careers at top companies. The first thing someone might ask when you meet them is, ‘What do you do?’ or ‘Where do you work?’ Make sure to find something that brings you joy outside of your job that allows you to explore your passions and have fun while doing so—like a creative hobby or joining a sports club!” — Michaela O’Shaughnessy of @lifeofaladybear

And it isn’t exactly clean, either!

“I wish I knew how dirty the city would be. As someone who spent her entire junior and senior year studying Sex and the City , I had no idea that a move to NYC also meant shacking up with the occasional cockroach or waiting for an oversized rat to cross the street so I could get to where I needed to go. And don’t even get me started on the constant fear of catching bed bugs!” — Liz Ukpe of @onsundayswe

New York will challenge you.

“As a young gal watching way too many rom-coms in my childhood bedroom, New York City was always my dream—and I made it happen. But this city is not for everyone, and that is OK! Simple things like getting groceries or doing laundry have a ton of extra steps, and emotionally, you’ll be challenged every day. I’ve learned so much about myself and grown to really love who I am here, but sometimes, it makes me want to cry on the subway—and that’s just New York.” — KC Cibran of @thecasaverde

“NYC is incredibly inconvenient unless you’re wealthy. Unless you are Ubering door to door, you will have to brave the elements. Between waiting in a boiling-hot subway station for a delayed train, getting your feet and legs soaked in the rain even with an umbrella, and freezing in the wind, cold, and snow—you’ll definitely build a lot of character. It takes about 30 minutes minimum to get almost anywhere by public transportation if the destination is not in your neighborhood or adjacent to it. Sometimes it takes just as long by Uber or taxi because of the crazy traffic. The bright side is that over time, you become tough as nails, and pretty much nothing phases you! Another added bonus: You’ll walk about 10,000-plus steps every day without trying. (Bye-bye, cardio workouts!)” — Kate McReynolds of @katemcreynoldsblog

“NYC will challenge you in ways you never thought possible, and things definitely don’t come easy living here. The more you persevere through the challenges, the more you’ll learn about yourself and grow.” — Tracy Davis of @tracyadavis_

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Moving to New York City can be both exciting and a little bit scary. Known as the city that never sleeps, New York offers a vibrant and diverse culture, unparalleled opportunities, and a bustling atmosphere that can inspire anyone.

However, with over 8 million people and a reputation for being expensive, fast-paced, and sometimes even dangerous, moving to New York City can be intimidating for newcomers.

Despite the challenges, many people dream of making the move to the Big Apple. Whether it’s to pursue a career, attend college, or simply experience the unique energy that is New York City, the City attracts people from all over the world.

Before you make your move, let’s explore what it’s really like to live in New York City, including the pros and cons, the job market, and the best places to live.

No matter if you are a recent graduate, an aspiring actor or artist, or just looking for a change of scenery, we’ve got all the information that will help you make an informed decision about moving to New York City.

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• Why Move to New York City?

An up-and-coming place to live, there is any number of reasons why one might want to move to Las Vegas, but some of the key draws include:

• Diversity: NYC is one of the most diverse cities in the world, with a population made up of people from all cultures and walks of life. Living in the City offers tremendous opportunities to experience different cultures, languages, and traditions.
• Careers: As a major hub for many industries such as finance, media, fashion, and technology, there are many job opportunities for people with all different backgrounds, skill sets, and interests. Whether you are looking to start a new career or move up in an existing career, New York City is likely to have options for you.
• World-Class Amenities: New York City is full of top-notch restaurants, museums, theaters, parks, and shopping. New Yorkers have access to some of the best entertainment, dining, and cultural experiences right on their doorsteps.
• Public Transportation: The extensive public transportation in NYC includes buses, subways, trains, and ferries, and is easy to navigate. There’s almost no need for a car, which is especially useful for newcomers who want to explore different neighborhoods at will.
• Vibrant Lifestyle: There’s no place quite like NYC – it’s fast-paced and there is always something happening from concerts and events to festivals and parades. The City is a great place for anyone who loves being in the middle of the action and experiencing the energy of a bustling city.
• How Much Does it Cost to Move to New York City?

The cost of moving to New York City can vary greatly, ranging from $400 to $13000 . While the chart below can provide a rough estimate to help you start budgeting your moving expenses, it’s important to note that the cost can fluctuate significantly based on the total distance and size of your move.

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• What are the Pros and Cons of Moving to New York City?

• What’s the Cost of Living in New York City?

It is very expensive to live in New York City, with a cost of living that is 95% higher than the national average. Every category of costs from housing to utilities to food and more is higher in New York City than both the state and national average.

Housing is the biggest culprit when it comes to the high cost of living in New York City, with housing costs a whopping 258% higher than the national average. On average, monthly rent is over $4,000 while purchasing a home will cost an average of $1.5 million .

Grocery prices are about 39% higher than the national average and people in New York City spend over $4 on a loaf of bread and more than $3 for a gallon of milk. A dozen eggs is just over $2 . Healthcare is another high expense in New York City, with doctor’s visits costing around $128 out of pocket.

• Where are the Best Neighborhoods to Live in New York City?

It’s hard to narrow down the best neighborhoods in New York City as there are so many different areas each with its own unique character and charm.

Whether you want to be right in the midst of all the action in Midtown Manhattan or have a bit more of a suburban feel in Queens or another borough, there are tons of different options that can suit every preference.

Following is a sampling of some of the more attractive areas to live in:

1. Upper West Side

Located between Central Park and the Hudson River, the Upper West Side of Manhattan is known for beautiful brownstone buildings with lots of charm, tree-lined streets, and excellent schools.

2. Greenwich Village

Also called simply “The Village,” this neighborhood is historic and trendy and situated in Lower Manhattan. The Village is known for its bohemian vibe, eclectic shops and delicious and diverse food scene.

3. Park Slope

Outside of Manhattan, the Park Slope area of Brooklyn is an up-and-coming neighborhood attractive to families and young professionals. An easy commute to the City, it offers a bit more of a suburban feel.

4. Williamsburg

Also located in Brooklyn, Williamsburg has become one of the trendiest neighborhoods in New York City. There’s an active nightlife scene, trendy and upscale shops and boutiques, and lots of waterfront parks.

Another neighborhood located in one of the City’s outer boroughs, Astoria is situated in Queens. It’s known for its diverse food scene, waterfront parks, and affordable housing options.

6. Battery Park City

This area is located on the southern tip of Manhattan and has great waterfront views, lots of green parks, and easy access to different modes of public transportation.

Another trendy downtown Manhattan neighborhood, Tribeca boasts beautiful loft apartments, many restaurants, and Hudson River views.

8. Jackson Heights

This Queens neighborhood is one of the most diverse in New York City and offers a wide array of ethnic restaurants and markets. Jackson Heights has a great transportation hub and offers easy access to other parts of the city.

9. Brooklyn Heights

Located close to the Brooklyn Bridge in Brooklyn, this neighborhood is well-known for historic brownstone homes, tree-lined streets and gorgeous views of the Manhattan skyline.

10. Upper East Side

Located on the east side of Manhattan, this neighborhood has luxurious apartments, and high-end shopping and is home to cultural institutions like the Metropolitan Museum of Art and the Guggenheim Museum. It’s also close to Central Park and other parks along the East River.

• How is the Job Market in New York City?

The job market in New York City is highly competitive and diverse, with lots of opportunities available in a wide range of industries. As one of the largest and most influential cities in the world, New York City is a major hub for companies in finance, media, technology, healthcare, and many other fields.

This means that job seekers in NYC have access to a wealth of job opportunities, but they may also face stiff competition from other highly qualified candidates. In addition, the high cost of living in New York City can make it difficult for some job seekers to afford to live in the city while looking for work.

One of the unique features of the job market in New York City is the emphasis on networking and personal connections. A lot of job openings are filled through referrals or recommendations from people already working in the industry or company.

This means that building a strong professional network is essential for job seekers in New York as it can help them gain access to jobs that might not be advertised.

• What is New York City Most Known for?

New York City is famous for so many things, including its iconic landmarks which attract millions of tourists each year. The Statue of Liberty is one of the city’s most recognizable symbols, as is the Empire State Building , which was once the tallest building in the world.

The observation deck on the 86th floor offers stunning views of the city skyline. Other notable landmarks include the Brooklyn Bridge, Central Park, Times Square, and the 9/11 Memorial.

In addition to the famous landmarks, New York City is also known for its wide array of cultural offerings. This includes Broadway shows, world-class museums, and art galleries .

Visitors and locals can taste the flavors of the world at any of the city’s numerous restaurants and food carts that serve everything from pizza and bagels to falafel and dim sum.

Finally, New York City is also well known for its role as a global financial and economic hub and is home to the New York Stock Exchange and many international corporations. There is a bustling startup scene in New York City as well, and it is often considered the cultural, financial, and media capital of the world.

• What are the Best Schools and Universities in New York City?

New York City is home to some of the best schools and universities in the country and even the world. Some of the top institutions include:

• Columbia University – is one of the most prestigious universities in the country, known for its rigorous academic programs and renowned faculty.
• New York University – a private research university with campuses in Greenwich Village, Midtown, and Brooklyn, NYU is known for its diverse student body and programs in business, law, and the arts.
• Fordham University – a private Jesuit university in the Bronx, Fordham has a strong liberal arts program as well as well-regarded business and law schools.
• The City University of New York – a public university system with 25 campuses throughout the city, CUNY is known for its affordable tuition for city residents.
• The Juilliard School – is one of the world’s most prestigious performing arts schools with programs focusing on music, dance, and drama.

When it comes to school-age children, there are generally three options for school types:

• Public Schools – NYC has the largest public school system in the US with over 1,800 schools and over 1 million students. The schools are divided into 32 local districts and are all free and open to all local students, offering a range of programs and services to meet the needs of diverse student populations.
• Charter Schools – These are independently run public schools that receive public funding but operate outside of the traditional public school system. In NYC, charter schools are known for their innovative programs and often have longer school days than traditional public schools.
• Private Schools – There are many private schools in New York City with a range of educational philosophies, including religious and secular schools, single-sex and co-ed schools, and schools that focus on certain academic areas or extracurricular activities. Private schools tend to have smaller class sizes and more personalized attention but also come with a high price tag.

How can I downsize my possessions if I’m moving to a smaller apartment in New York City?

Many people who move to New York City from other states find they have too many belongings to fit in a small apartment. The best way to downsize is to start early – begin a few weeks before your move by sorting your clothes and other items and getting rid of things you don’t wear or use.

Also consider your furniture – if you have pieces that will be too large to fit in your new apartment, try to sell them or give them away before you move.

How can I ensure that the mover’s van will be able to park near my apartment building?

One of the issues with moving to New York City is the difficulty in parking moving vans or U-Hauls. Although commercial vehicles do have some special privileges like being able to double park, you should check the signs and be aware of alternate sides of the street parking as well as street cleaning.

You might be able to schedule your move for a day that works better for the parking restrictions. In some cases, you might have to apply for a parking permit for the moving van a few days ahead of time.

What are some ways to save money on a move to New York City?

Moving to New York City from out of state or across the country can be costly if you choose to hire best moving company .

However, there are ways to save money, such as taking on some of the work yourself. One option is to pack and unpack your belongings yourself instead of paying the movers to do it.

Another option is to obtain free or low-cost boxes from nearby businesses. Additionally, reducing the number of items you need to move by decluttering can also help keep expenses down.

• In the New York State of Mind

Moving to New York City can be exciting and transformative. As one of the most diverse and lively cities in the world, NYC offers endless opportunities for personal and professional growth.

However, it is important to also be prepared for the challenges that come with living in a busy city like New York, including the high costs of living.

Don’t let the challenges scare you though – as long as you are patient, persistent, and open-minded you’ll be able to navigate your new life in the Big Apple just fine. Of course, start your life there off on the right foot by choosing a reliable and trustworthy moving company.

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Written By Emily Kirschenbaum

Meet Emily! She's a fantastic writer who has covered a wide range of topics. Having gone through several moves herself, she's picked up some valuable tips and tricks on all things related to moving, whether it's local or long-distance. And despite still having some unpacked boxes from her last move, Emily loves nothing more than sharing her expertise to help others have a smooth and stress-free moving experience.

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