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How to Learn From Your Failures

Sooner or later, everyone fails at something. But does everyone learn from their failures? In fact, the evidence suggests that most people struggle to grow from mistakes and defeats.

When researchers Lauren Eskreis-Winkler and Ayelet Fishbach developed the “Facing Failure” game, they wanted to test how well people learn from failure. The game consists of successive rounds of multiple-choice questions, where feedback from earlier rounds can help you perform better in later rounds—and getting more correct answers means making more money.

However, across many different studies, the researchers have consistently found that people “underlearn” from failure in the game. In fact, people continue to not learn from errors even as the incentives to do so increase.

“Even when participants had the chance to earn a learning bonus that was 900% larger than the participation payment, players learned less from failure than success,” they write. It’s a result echoed by other studies. The “ostrich effect” describes the tendency for investors to stop checking their stocks when market value tumbles—whereas they’ll compulsively do so when things are going well. One 2012 study found that novices often avoid negative performance feedback.

Why do people avoid the lessons of failure? That’s the question Eskreis-Winkler and Fishbach explored in a recent paper published by Perspectives on Psychological Science . They find a host of emotional and cognitive obstacles to learning from failure—and they provide concrete steps to overcoming them.

Overcoming feelings of failure

Failure bruises the ego, that metaphorical seat of our self-esteem and self-importance. When we fail, we feel threatened—and that sense of threat can trigger a fight-or-flight response.

“Fight” in the context of failure looks like wholesale dismissal of the value of the task, or criticism of the people involved or the unfairness of the situation you faced. However, “flight” might be the more common response to failure. When we flee failure, we disengage our attention from the task that threatens our sense of ourselves as effective people.

In a series of six experiments published in 2020, Hallgeir Sjåstad, Roy Baumeister, and Michael Ent randomly assigned participants to receive good or bad feedback on a cognitive test or academic performance. They found that participants who initially failed at a task predicted that succeeding in the future would make them less happy than it actually did—and they tended to dismiss the goals of the tests. The researchers coin the term “sour grapes effect” to describe this kind of response.

How do we make failure less threatening to the ego? Research offers a few suggestions.

Observe other people’s failures. In their paper, Eskreis-Winkler and Fishbach propose removing the ego from failure as much as possible by looking at other people’s failures first, before you take on a task yourself. In one of their studies, half of participants got lessons from other people’s negative results in the Facing Failure game before playing it themselves—and learned more from those failures than they did from their own. In other words, when you set out to learn out to ski, it will probably help to watch YouTube videos about common mistakes, before you hit the slopes yourself.

Get some distance. If negative emotions are getting in the way of your understanding, they also suggest trying self-distancing techniques . This involves thinking of your personal experience from the outside perspective of a neutral third party, asking, “Why did Jeremy fail?” instead of “Why did I fail?” While that might sound cheesy, it seems to work. As Amy L. Eva writes in Greater Good :

According to  research , when people adopt a self-distanced perspective while discussing a difficult event, they make better sense of their reactions, experience less emotional distress, and display fewer physiological signs of stress. In the long term, they also experience reduced reactivity when remembering the same problematic event weeks or months later, and they are less vulnerable to recurring thoughts (or rumination).

It may also help to write about the failure in the third person or from the point of view of a future self who is looking back on the failure.

Share your own failure story. People tend to hide their own failures, out of a sense of shame, but there are ways to turn failure into success by transforming it into a story of growth.

In a series of 2018 and 2019 studies with Angela Duckworth, Eskreis-Winkler and Fishbach asked people to turn failures in different domains like work, fitness, or school into inspirational stories for others. This often fueled success down the line. High school students who shared failures with middle school students went on to get better grades than those who didn’t reframe their failures; middle schoolers who gave advice to elementary school students later spent more time on homework.

How can adults apply these insights to real life? If you’re a manager, for example, consider sharing your mistakes with employees in helping them improve their own performance—which will help them (as well as you) learn from failure.

Recognize your successes. There are other ways to shore up your own ego. Studies consistently find that experts are better able to tolerate failure in their fields, in part because they have a past history of accomplishment and future predicated on commitment.

In a 2014 experiment , seventh-grade teachers paired constructive criticism with encouraging notes that reminded students of the ability and skill they’d already demonstrated in class, which led to better grades in the future. Studies suggest teachers can also reframe failure as success by making learning the goal, as one 2019 study found.

This insight can obviously be applied to the workplace, as well: Managers can take steps to build up the egos of employees in feedback, by reminding them of how far they’ve come. They can also make learning one of the goals of any project, to encourage progress away from any missteps.

Feel the disappointment. If all else fails, try just feeling sad over your mistakes and defeats. There is a great deal of research suggesting that sadness evolved as a response to failure and loss, and that it exists in order to encourage us to reflect on our experiences. Sadness seems to improve memory and judgment, which can help us to succeed in the future; regret can actually sharpen motivation. When children reach the developmental stage when they can experience regret, suggests one 2014 study , they’re more likely to learn more from failure.

Thinking beyond failure

Beyond the emotional challenge to our ego, failure also presents a cognitive challenge, meaning that information from failure can be harder to process than successful experiences. “Whereas success points to a winning strategy, from failure people need to infer what not to do,” write Eskreis-Winkler and Fishbach.

In a complex 2020 experiment , they presented participants with three boxes, each containing an imaginary large success, a moderate success, and a small failure, with real monetary awards attached to each choice. They structured the game so that the rewards would be greatest with choosing the failure scenario, because the failure contains better information: “Learning the location of the losing box statistically raises a player’s winnings more than revealing the location of the moderate win, because knowing to avoid the failure guarantees a larger gain.”

The results? One third of the participants were not able to see that the imaginary failure contained better information, which would ultimately lead to more money for them. “Even when ‘failure’ is a reveal, not an actual failure—and thus, not at all ego-threatening—people struggle to see that failure contains useful information,” they write.

It’s not too hard to see what’s going on in experiments like those: Ego aside, we all need to make a realistic assessment about whether a task is worth our time and effort. Initial failure sends a signal that a task might not provide a return on investment; thus, we naturally bend in the direction of success, even when the success story has nothing to do with us. So how do we get our brains to pay more attention to the lessons that come from failure?

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Focus on the long-term goal. Often, we need to ask ourselves: Will my failures lead to rewards down the line? That’s why goals and commitments are important for overcoming the cognitive barriers to learning from failure. Holding a clear long-term goal in mind—such as becoming a doctor or learning to sail—can help us to tolerate short-term failure and override information-avoidance.

Practice mindfulness. “There is yet another reason failure often contains superior information: failure violates expectations,” Eskreis-Winkler and Fishbach write. Because people almost never intend to fail, failure can be surprising, which has the happy effect of waking up our brains—and a brain that is awake learns more than a brain that’s sleepwalking. When you feel surprised by failure, take that as a signal to be mindful and to sit with it rather than ignoring it. Indeed, multiple studies suggest that practicing mindfulness —that is, cultivating nonjudgmental awareness of thoughts and experiences—can help you to grow from failure.

Reflect on the lessons you learned. Because failure requires more interpretation and thinking than success if we’re to learn from it, Eskreis-Winkler and Fishbach suggest reducing mental loads as much as possible in its wake.

In one version of their Facing Failure game, the researchers highlight lessons from failure: “TAKE NOTE: there were only two answer choices to the question. Based on the feedback above, you can learn the correct answer! It is whichever choice you did not select initially.” You can do this on your own by distilling lessons into notes for yourself: “I failed at my math test because I didn’t study long enough. Therefore, I need to study longer—at least four hours!”

Do less. Finally, they suggest increasing our capacity to learn by engaging in fewer tasks that present opportunities for failure. In other words, if you’re learning to do something hard, you might need to prioritize that ahead of other, easier tasks, simply taking one thing at a time. Repetition helps, too. In other words, practice makes perfect—or at least good enough .

Practice self-compassion . Many people believe that they should be hard on themselves in the wake of failure; after all, how else would you grow? In fact, many recent studies suggest that you’re more likely to grow if you speak kindly to yourself, as a loved one might speak to you, in the wake of failure.

Along with self-kindness, there’s another component of self-compassion worth mentioning: common humanity. This is the awareness of our connection with other people and the universality of human experience. Failure is one of those human experiences, because it’s inevitable. It’s not a question of if you’ll fail—it’s when. The only real question you need to answer is what you can learn from the experience.

Well, there might be one more question to ask yourself: whether to keep the failure to yourself or turn it into a lesson for others. That can be scary, but, as Eskreis-Winkler and Fishbach argue, “The information in failure is a public good. When it is shared, society benefits.”

About the Author

Jeremy Adam Smith

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Jeremy Adam Smith edits the GGSC's online magazine, Greater Good . He is also the author or coeditor of five books, including The Daddy Shift , Are We Born Racist? , and (most recently) The Gratitude Project: How the Science of Thankfulness Can Rewire Our Brains for Resilience, Optimism, and the Greater Good . Before joining the GGSC, Jeremy was a John S. Knight Journalism Fellow at Stanford University.

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How to Learn From Your Mistakes

... and put those lessons into practice.

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"A smart man makes a mistake, learns from it, and never makes that mistake again." – Roy H. Williams (1958-), U.S. author and marketing expert.

Think back to the last mistake that you made at work. Even if it was a minor one, like spilling coffee on a document seconds before you were due to present it, you'll likely have felt a rush of panic and then had the inconvenience of putting things right.

No one is immune to making mistakes – we are human, after all! But if we simply apologize and carry on as before, we're in danger of repeating the same errors.

When we don't learn from our mistakes, we inflict unnecessary stress on ourselves and on others, and we risk losing people's confidence and trust in us. In this article, we look at how to ensure that we take those lessons on board, and then use what we learn.

How to Stop Repeating Mistakes

Here are five steps to help you to learn from your mistakes, and to put what you discover into practice.

"Making a mistake" is not the same thing as "failing." A failure is the result of a wrong action, whereas a mistake usually is the wrong action. So, when you make a mistake, you can learn from it and fix it, whereas you can only learn from a failure.

1. Own Your Mistakes

You can't learn anything from a mistake until you admit that you've made it. So, take a deep breath and admit to yours, and then take ownership of it. Inform those who need to know, apologize , and tell them that you're working on a solution.

Saying "sorry" takes courage, but it's far better to come clean than to hide your error or, worse, to blame others for it. In the long run, people will remember your courage and integrity long after they've forgotten the original mistake.

If, however, they hear of it from another source, your reputation will suffer and you may not get another opportunity to learn.

2. Reframe the Error

How you view your mistakes determines the way that you react to them, and what you do next.

Chances are, you'll view your error in a purely negative light for as long as any initial shock and discomfort about it persists. But, if you can reframe your mistake as an opportunity to learn, you will motivate yourself to become more knowledgeable and resilient.

When you've acknowledged your mistake, think about what you could do to prevent it from happening again. For example, if you didn't follow a process properly, consider introducing a more robust checklist or a clearer process document.

Stop beating yourself up, pause for a moment to reflect, and start thinking about how you can gain from the situation.

Your mindset plays a significant role in how you view your mistakes and, importantly, in how you react to them.

If you have a "growth" mindset, you likely see mistakes as an opportunity to improve, and not as something that you are doomed to repeat because your mindset is "fixed" on the belief that you can't improve.

You can find out how to develop a growth mindset with our article, Dweck's Fixed and Growth Mindsets .

A learning opportunity is not the same as an excuse for careless behavior!

Rather, admitting to your mistakes and showing that you have learned from them can help others to understand that making mistakes is OK. That is, as long as you act intelligently, in good faith, and keep your risk-taking within agreed boundaries.

Model this approach to encourage your people to take responsible risks, and to be more creative.

3. Analyze Your Mistake

Next, you need to analyze your mistake honestly and objectively. Ask yourself the following questions:

• What was I trying to do?
• What went wrong?
• When did it go wrong?
• Why did it go wrong?

Our article, 5 Whys , describes a straightforward yet powerful tool for identifying the causes of simple or moderately difficult problems. To use it, start with the error and keep asking "Why?" until you get to the root cause.

For complex or more critical issues, a more in-depth tool, such as Causal Factor Charting , may be more appropriate.

Conducting this "postmortem" should reveal what led to the mistake, and highlight what needs to change in order to avoid a repeat.

4. Put Lessons Learned Into Practice

The danger at this stage is that work pressures force you back to your routine tasks and habitual behaviors. The lessons that you identified in Step 3 could languish, unfulfillled, as mere good intentions. In other words, learning lessons is one thing, but putting them into practice is quite another!

Chances are, acting on what you've learned will require the discipline and motivation to change your habits , or to change the way that your team works. Doing so will help you to avoid self-sabotage in the future, and will allow you to reap the rewards and benefits of implementing better work practices .

Here, you need to identify the skills, knowledge, resources, or tools that will keep you from repeating the error.

Do so with care, though, because "quick fixes" will likely lead to further mistakes. Any actions that you take to implement your learning need to be enduring, and something that you can commit to.

If your mistake was a minor or a personal one, personal goals and action plans will lay the groundwork for implementing the lessons you've learned. They can give you a timescale to work to, and a list of the tasks that you'll need to complete.

The specific tools that you use from there on will depend on the particular lessons that you need to put into practice.

For example, if you learned that a mistake occurred because of your forgetfulness, aides-mémoire or greater attention to detail could help. If you found that your organizational skills were below par, digital planners and spreadsheets would be useful.

Or, if you discovered that an error occurred because of a cross-cultural misunderstanding, your communication skills might need a polish.

If the mistake was more organizational than personal, you may need to implement your learning in a more far-reaching way. Writing clearer procedures , for example, could help to ensure that more gets done without mistakes.

Understanding Zenger and Folkman's 10 Fatal Leadership Flaws could help to tackle errors from the top. In fact, not learning from mistakes is one of the 10 flaws, and providing clear and specific feedback is one way to counter this flaw.

And, if you learned that your new product wasn't distinctive enough to be successful, you may need to revisit your whole strategy .

Learning from mistakes, and putting that learning into practice, involves change. If that change will impact other people, the ADKAR Change Management Model could help you to get them "on board" – and to keep them there.

Don't be afraid to ask colleagues or your manager for help if you're unsure which tactic or tool will be the most effective in preventing further mistakes.

Involving other people is a great way to make them feel invested – and it can be particularly important when mistakes are made at a team or organizational level. So, foster an environment where people feel comfortable about expressing their ideas.

5: Review Your Progress

You may have to try out several ways to put your learning into practice before you find one that successfully prevents you from repeating past errors. The Plan-Do-Check-Act cycle is a great tool for pinpointing the most effective solutions.

From there, monitor the efficacy of your chosen tactic by reviewing the number and nature of mistakes that do – or don't! – still get made. Asking someone to hold you accountable can help you to stay committed to your new course of action.

To err is human, and we don't have to punish ourselves for the mistakes that we make. They can be great opportunities to learn, and to develop on a personal, as well as an organizational, level. We just need to learn from them, and to put that learning into practice.

When you, or one of your team members, make a mistake:

• Own up to it. Don't play the "blame game." This is detrimental in the long run, and you'll lose the potential for learning.
• Reframe your mistake as an opportunity to learn and develop.
• Review what went wrong, to understand and learn from your mistake.
• Identify the skills, knowledge, resources, or tools that will keep you from repeating the error.
• Review your progress.

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This article was co-authored by Julia Yacoob, PhD and by wikiHow staff writer, Jennifer Mueller, JD . Dr. Julia Yacoob is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist practicing in New York City. She specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for adults coping with a variety of symptoms and life stressors. Dr. Yacoob earned an MS and Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Rutgers University, and pursued specialized training at Weill Cornell Medical College, New York Presbyterian Hospital, Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, the Institute for Behavior Therapy, and Bellevue Hospital Cancer Center. Dr. Yacoob is a member of the American Psychological Association, Women’s Mental Health Consortium, NYC Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Association, and Association for Cognitive and Behavioral Therapies. There are 11 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources. This article has been viewed 182,396 times.

Making a mistake can be embarrassing or even shameful—but it doesn't have to be. The truth is, everyone makes mistakes. By owning up to your mistakes and reflecting on where you went wrong, you can learn from your mistakes so that you don't repeat them in the future. We talked to therapists and life coaches to learn exactly what you need to do to accept and analyze your mistakes, as well as how to best implement the lessons you learn along the way.

How to Learn from Your Mistakes

• Acknowledge your mistakes and own up to them as soon as possible after making them. Do what you can to correct them.
• Ask yourself what you were trying to do, what went wrong, when it went wrong, and why it went wrong. Keep asking why until you get to the root cause.
• Set goals for change by implementing the knowledge you gained through analyzing your mistakes. Maintain a growth mindset to make it easier to learn from mistakes.

Give yourself permission to mess up.

• To implement this, get in the habit of telling yourself before you start something or try anything for the first time, "I'm new at this and I'm not going to be good at it right away. I'm going to make mistakes and that's okay."
• Embracing mistakes also frees you up to experiment, take risks, and engage in creative problem-solving —all things that are essential to make progress. [2] X Research source
• On the other hand, the fear of making mistakes can keep you from trying new things, taking calculated risks, or thinking outside of the box .

Admit your mistakes as soon as you notice them.

• Clinical psychologist Julia Yacoob notes that "though it might be hard, and though there might be worry attached to admitting having made a mistake, generally the outcome is well-received."
• Generally speaking, the sooner you admit the mistake , the better off everyone will be. Mistakes are typically easier to correct if you're able to draw attention to them pretty quickly after making them.

Correct your mistake if possible.

• For example, if you work for a website and you make a mistake in an article you've written, it might be something that you can correct yourself. But if you've made a factual mistake, the website might need to write and publish an acknowledgment of the mistake along with the correction.

Apologize for your mistake if necessary.

• Through your apology, it might help to explain to others why the mistake happened. You're not making an excuse here—you're simply identifying where you have room to grow and improve.
• It's also helpful to explain what steps you're going to take to ensure the mistake won't happen again—if and when you know what those are. You might also ask for help analyzing the mistake so you can prevent it from happening again in the future.
• It can be tough to apologize and accept responsibility this way, but clinical psychologist Julia Yacoob advises that you "should evaluate what is going to be best in the long term, not what's going to be hardest in the short term."

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• Your brain typically responds to mistakes in one of two ways—either by going into problem-solving mode or by shutting down and avoiding thinking about the mistake entirely.
• If you have more of a shut-down response, it might take you a little more effort to reframe your mistakes, but you can certainly do it.
• Clinical therapist Rebecca Tenzer notes that "It's important to show self-love and forgiveness when you make mistakes... Practicing gratitude is a really effective way to work on self-love and self-compassion."

Reflect back on the cause of your mistake.

• What were you trying to do?
• What went right and what went wrong?
• When did it go wrong?
• Why did it go wrong? Keep asking "why" until you've drilled down to the root cause of the mistake. [7] X Research source

Figure out how to avoid repeating the mistake.

• For example, if you mistakenly formatted a spreadsheet incorrectly, you might need to go back and learn the formatting commands for your spreadsheet program.
• As another example, if you found you were making typos on a report, you might want to install grammar and spelling checkers on your word processing app to catch most of those mistakes the next time around.

Set a goal to implement the lesson you learned.

• For example, if you're learning how to cook, you might experiment with different spices to season your food and record your opinion on each attempt. This allows you to learn how each spice affects the taste of your food and find the right combination that works for you.

Ask for feedback and help.

• For example, you could read an instruction sheet that tells you how to format your report, but you'll probably remember the process far better if you ask several people to show you how they format their reports.
• If you run into trouble, don't hesitate to ask someone who has more knowledge or experience to help you out. There's nothing wrong with admitting that you can't do everything on your own! [11] X Research source

Keep a journal of your progress.

• Writing a journal entry is a great way to reflect on your mistakes so you can figure out how best to avoid repeating them in the future.
• Your journal also gives you something to look back on if you want to congratulate yourself on your growth and achievement.

Try mindfulness exercises to stay in the moment.

• Try meditation as a way to calm your mind and get you used to being present in the moment.
• You might also try deep breathing exercises to ground yourself and bring yourself back to the present if you find your mind wandering.

Cultivate a growth mindset.

• Shift your perspective to look at challenges as opportunities.
• Replace your negative thoughts with more positive ones.
• Trust and believe in yourself rather than seeking validation and approval from others.
• Focus on the process rather than the end result.

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• Forgive yourself for past errors and move on, grateful for the opportunity they provide you to learn and grow. [15] X Research source Thanks Helpful 1 Not Helpful 0

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• Instead of putting yourself down, ask yourself what you would say if a friend or family member made the same mistake. Then, tell yourself what you would tell your best friend.

• Avoid thinking you're immune to mistakes, even if you're really good at something. This kind of thinking can make it harder for you to accept your mistakes and learn from them when you do make them. [16] X Research source Thanks Helpful 1 Not Helpful 0

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5 Ways to Turn Mistakes Into Valuable Life Lessons

Each mistake can be an opportunity to grow stronger and become better..

Posted August 10, 2017 | Reviewed by Devon Frye

Have you ever found yourself saying, “I’ll never do that again,” only to do the exact same thing just a short time later? You’re not alone. It’s likely that all of us have repeated some of our mistakes at one time or another.

But making the same mistakes over and over can be costly, in more ways than one. Perhaps your boss has lost faith in you because your behavior doesn’t match your words. Or maybe your financial mistakes have left you so far in debt that you can't imagine how you'll dig yourself out.

The good news is that you can take steps to learn from your mistakes. Then, instead of repeating them again, you’ll gain some wisdom that could help you in the future.

Here are five ways to learn from your mistakes:

1. Acknowledge Your Errors

So often, leaders say things like, “I’m sorry you felt that way,” or “It’s unfortunate it didn’t work out.” But blaming other people or minimizing your responsibility isn’t helpful to anyone.

Before you can learn from your mistakes, you have to accept full responsibility for your role in the outcome. That can be uncomfortable sometimes, but until you can say, “I messed up,” you aren’t ready to change.

2. Ask Yourself Tough Questions

You don’t want to dwell on your mistakes, but reflecting on them can be productive. Ask yourself a few tough questions:

• What went wrong?
• What could I do better next time?
• What did I learn from this?

Write down your responses, and you'll see the situation a little more clearly. Seeing your answers on paper can help you think more logically about an irrational or emotional experience.

3. Create a Plan

Beating yourself up for your mistakes won’t help you down the road. It’s important to spend the bulk of your time thinking about how to do better in the future.

Make a plan that will help you avoid making a similar mistake. Be as detailed as possible, but remain flexible, since your plan may need to change.

Whether you find an accountability partner, or track your progress on a calendar, find a way to hold yourself accountable. Keep in mind that what works for one person might not work for someone else.

4. Make It Harder to Mess Up

Don’t depend on willpower alone to prevent you from taking an unhealthy shortcut or from giving in to immediate gratification. Increase your chances of success by making it harder to mess up again.

As a psychotherapist, I’ve worked with people who have found some creative ways to become more disciplined. I once worked with a woman who blew her budget every month because she shopped online late at night whenever she was bored . To prevent herself from having instant access to her cards, she froze her credit cards in a big block of ice. She’d have to wait for the ice to melt to get the number. Whenever she found herself trying to thaw the block of ice, she would pause and realize how ridiculous the situation was, and stop short of spending money she didn’t have.

5. Remember Why You Want to Do Better

Sometimes it only takes one weak moment to indulge in something you shouldn’t. Creating a list of all the reasons why you should stay on track could help you stay self-disciplined, even during tough times.

I once worked with a woman who wanted to stop talking to her ex-boyfriend. She knew he wasn’t good for her but couldn’t resist answering the phone whenever he called.

She created a list of all the reasons why she shouldn’t talk to him—it was bad for her mental health, they were toxic together, etc. She laminated the list and taped it to the back cover of her phone. Whenever he called, she’d turn her phone over and begin to read the list. It helped her resist the temptation to answer.

Self-discipline is like a muscle. Each time you delay gratification and make a healthy choice, you grow mentally stronger.

Move Forward With New Wisdom

Sometimes, mistakes aren’t just one big blunder; they’re a series of little choices that lead to failure. So pay attention to your errors, no matter how small they might seem. And recognize that each mistake can be an opportunity to build mental muscle and become better.

To learn how to give up the bad habits that rob you of mental strength, pick up a copy of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do .

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Amy Morin, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and the author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do .

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Learning From Mistakes: How Does the Brain Handle Errors?

We all make mistakes—and when we do, it is a great opportunity for the brain to adjust what it is doing and to learn. To study how the brain detects and deals with errors, researchers have used caps equipped with sensors that can measure brain activity. One thing researchers have found using this method is that the brain creates a specific kind of brain activity when a person makes a mistake. This activity, called the error-related negativity or ERN, happens almost at the same time that the error is made. It is as if the brain already knows we are making a mistake within fractions of a second, before we are even aware of it. Where in the brain does this ERN come from? How does it help us learn? And how does it change as we develop from children to adults?

Making Mistakes

Making a mistake feels bad. That sudden annoying jolt you feel when the dart misses the dartboard or the sinking feeling you get when you get an F on a test. These feelings can be annoying or painful, but they are part of what your brain does to make you succeed in the future.

Making a mistake could have meant injury or death for our distant ancestors who lived in the wild, hunting game and avoiding predators. The brains of our ancestors had to help them learn from their mistakes, so that the human race could survive. An important function of the brain is to try to predict the future. This includes how we can change our actions in the future, to avoid making the same mistakes. Understanding how the brain detects and copes with mistakes is therefore important for understanding how the brain works and how we learn.

We can think of a mistake like this: you start out with a goal you want to achieve. Perhaps you are playing soccer and you are about to make a free kick. Your goal is literally to score a goal. You assess the situation and choose a plan of action. Say the opposing team has set up a wall, so you decide to curve the ball around the players and into the goal. But you put too little spin on the ball, and it hits a goal post and deflects.

In this example, the mistake was caused by an incorrect prediction. You predicted that the way you kicked the ball would result in you scoring a goal but, to your surprise, it hit the goal post instead! In other words, what you thought would happen did not actually happen. Although you might be disappointed for not scoring a goal, this event tells you something very important. It tells you that your ideas about how the world works and how you can affect it are not completely correct. Now you know that, next time, you will need to kick the ball with more spin. Thanks to such learning experiences, you will fine-tune your kicking until you ultimately score.

How Does the Brain Deal With Errors?

Brain cells communicate with each other using electricity. Some of this electrical activity travels away from the brain cells to the outside of the head. It passes through brain tissue, the skull, and your skin along the way. By using caps with special sensors called electrodes, we can record this activity; this method is called electroencephalography (EEG) . EEG allows us to study brain activity while people perform different tasks. The brain never stops working, even when you sleep, and thus constantly produces this electrical activity. By looking at patterns in these electrical “brain waves,” it is possible to see a lot about what is going on in the brain. We can see if people are awake or sleeping, if they are relaxed or focused, or if they just made an error.

In the laboratory, we study brain activity related to errors by giving someone a very difficult task, in which he or she is bound to make a lot of errors. For example, the person might be asked to quickly press a certain key on a keyboard when a left or right arrow is shown at the center of the screen, but the arrow is surrounded by many distracting arrows pointing in the other direction. Whenever the person makes an error, a special pattern of brain activity shows up: a sharp, negative electrical activity that is strongest at the top of the head. Since this electrical activity is negatively charged and associated with making errors, it is called the error-related negativity , or ERN [ 1 ] ( Figure 1 ).

• Figure 1 - The error-related negativity (ERN) and the error positivity.
• A specific pattern of brain activity can be observed when we make an error. In the graph, the wavy line shows the brain activity over time. The vertical line represents the time at which the error was made. You can see that the ERN (blue), happens almost immediately after the error is made and is strongest at the top of the head, while the error positivity (red), comes a bit later.

The ERN is thought to come from a brain region deep inside the front part of the brain called the cingulate cortex [ 2 ] ( Figure 2 ). The ERN is likely the result of the cingulate cortex detecting an error and sending an alert signal to other parts of the brain, through connections called the cingulum bundle , focusing the person’s attention to decrease the likelihood of making new mistakes.

• Figure 2 - The cingulate cortex and the cingulum bundle.
• Left: The cingulate cortex, shown in green, is a region deep inside in the middle of the brain, and is the source of the ERN. Right: The cingulum bundle, the fiber connections that lie underneath the cingulum cortex, connects different brain regions (made by Sila Genc).

A curious thing about the ERN is how quickly it happens after you make an error. So quickly, in fact, that it happens before you are aware of your mistake. The ERN usually occurs no later than 100 ms (1/1,000 of a second) after an error has been made. The ERN can even occur at almost the exact same time as the error itself. In contrast, you will not have a feeling of making an error until at least 200 ms later. It is like your brain knows you have made a mistake before “you” do! And indeed, scientists think that this is exactly what happens. The cingulate cortex compares our actual actions to what we would like to do or should achieve, and the ERN then signals to our conscious self that the actual action and the outcome we expected do not match. The ERN thus brings this error or mismatch to our attention. The actual awareness of making an error happens at the same time as a later brain signal, called the error positivity , which is an electrical signal that scientists believe to be involved in our awareness of making an error.

How Do Errors Help Us Adjust Our Behavior and Learn?

Many scientific studies have found that, after making a mistake, we respond more slowly in the next round. This might be because the brain is trying to give itself more time, to avoid making the same mistake again. The stronger the ERN is after an error, the slower the response in the next round tends to be [ 3 ].

Some people have a larger ERN than others. Does this mean that these people are more sensitive to making errors and learn more from their mistakes? Some studies seem to support this idea. For instance, Hirsh and Inzlicht [ 4 ] found that a stronger ERN was associated with better school performance. In their study, the researchers measured the brain activity of university students and found that the students who had a larger ERN also tended to have better grades.

Having a strong ERN is not necessarily always a good thing, however. People who are more anxious tend to have stronger ERNs [ 5 ], and very strong brain responses to errors are associated with increased distractibility rather than improved focus. If the ERN shows the brain reacting and responding to errors, then a really strong ERN might be the brain overreacting, being more upset and alarmed by making a mistake than is necessary.

How Do Error Signals Change As We Grow Up?

In childhood and adolescence, the body goes through many physical changes, but there are also many changes in how we think, feel, and behave, and in our motivations. These changes, along with the ever-greater responsibilities and expectations we face in life, require repeated trial-and-error in order for us to learn the social and academic skills we need to thrive as adults.

Studies show that the ERN changes with age, with adults and older teenagers having stronger ERN signals compared to children [ 3 ]. That the ERN increases in strength through childhood and adolescence is probably related to the way the brain develops. Different parts of the brain develop at different speeds. Some brain regions are fully mature by late childhood, while others continue to develop into adulthood [ 6 ]. The cingulate cortex, which produces the ERN, does not stop developing until the late 20s. In other words, a part of the brain that is important for learning from our mistakes takes a really long time to develop compared to many other parts of the brain.

Making mistakes can be annoying and frustrating at times. However, it is also very important for us to learn from our mistakes, so we can correct our responses and do things differently the next time we are in the same situation. The brain is very sensitive to mistakes and it produces a specific type of electrical activity when we make errors, called the ERN. This error signal: (1) occurs before we are aware of our mistake; (2) becomes more powerful as we get older; and (3) can predict how well we perform at school or university. There is still much we do not know about how the brain reacts to mistakes. Doing more research on the ERN might help us solve some of these mysteries.

Electroencephalography (EEG) : ↑ A method to record electrical activity of the brain.

Error Related Negativity (ERN) : ↑ Negatively charged electrical brain activity which happens very quickly after an error and which signals detection and processing of the error.

Cingulate Cortex : ↑ A part of the brain deep inside in the middle of the brain.

Cingulum Bundle : ↑ A nerve tract containing a collection of fibers that connect many different parts of the brain.

Error Positivity (Pe) : ↑ Positively charged electrical brain activity which happens from 200 ms after an error and is involved in our awareness of making the error.

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The authors declare that the research was conducted in the absence of any commercial or financial relationships that could be construed as a potential conflict of interest.

Acknowledgments

We would like to wholeheartedly thank those who assisted in the translation of the articles in this Collection to make them more accessible to kids outside English-speaking countries, and for the Jacobs Foundation for providing the funds necessary to translate the articles. For this article, we would especially like to thank Tieme Janssen for the Dutch translation. CT was supported by the Research Council of Norway (#230345, #288083, #223273) and the South-Eastern Norway Regional Health Authority (#2019069).

[1] ↑ Tamnes, C. K., Walhovd, K. B., Torstveit, M., Sells, V. T., and Fjell, A. M. 2013. Performance monitoring in children and adolescents: a review of developmental changes in the error-related negativity and brain maturation. Dev. Cogn. Neurosci. 6:1–13. doi: 10.1016/j.dcn.2013.05.001

[2] ↑ Cavanagh, J. F., and Frank, M. J. 2014. Frontal theta as a mechanism for cognitive control. Trends Cogn. Sci. 18:414–21. doi: 10.1016/j.tics.2014.04.012

[3] ↑ Overbye, K., Walhovd, K. B., Paus, T., Fjell, A. M., Huster, R. J., and Tamnes, C. K. 2019. Error processing in the adolescent brain: Age-related differences in electrophysiology, behavioral adaptation, and brain morphology. Dev. Cogn. Neurosci. 38:100665. doi: 10.1016/j.dcn.2019.100665

[4] ↑ Hirsh, J. B., and Inzlicht, M. 2010. Error-related negativity predicts academic performance. Psychophysiology 47:192–6. doi: 10.1111/j.1469-8986.2009.00877.x

[5] ↑ Hajcak, G. 2012. What we’ve learned from mistakes: insights from error-related brain activity. Curr. Direct. Psychol. Sci. 21:101–6. doi: 10.1177/0963721412436809

[6] ↑ Amlien, I. K., Fjell, A. M., Tamnes, C. K., Grydeland, H., Krogsrud, S. K., Chaplin, T. A., et al. 2016. Organizing principles of human cortical development—thickness and area from 4 to 30 years: insights from comparative primate neuroanatomy. Cereb. Cortex 26:257–67. doi: 10.1093/cercor/bhu214

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I’ve failed at quite a few things in my life. 

As a kid, I tried guitar, the cello, and piano — all with mediocre (at best) results. I quickly dumped instruments for sports. But I learned that even despite my height, I wasn’t very good at basketball. Or soccer. Or tennis. (I was atrociously bad at tennis, to be fair.) 

As an adult, failures continued. I didn’t get that “ dream job ” I wanted. I was rejected from a graduate school program I really wanted to attend. I’ve pitched a chapbook to dozens of publishers with dozens matched in rejection letters. I had an idea for a new way of doing things at work — and it didn’t work out. Even some relationships and friendships failed . 

But along the way, I learned. I learned from my mistakes . I learned what my strengths were. I learned where I wanted to take my career. I learned that failures don’t define me. I learned that in order to succeed, I needed to fail. And I learned that it’s possible to get better at something — even after you’ve failed. 

When you experience a failure, you can feel it in your gut. You may think to yourself, “I’m never coming back from this.” Your confidence and self-esteem can take a hit. You might not want to try something new again. 

It took Thomas Edison 10,000 attempts to perfect the light bulb . Arianna Huffington was rejected by 36 publishers . Bill Gates’ first company was a complete disaster .

Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper job for lack of creativity. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team . Oprah Winfrey was fired from her first job , where she experienced sexual harassment in a hostile work environment . 

The most successful people in the world have failed, often. How are you learning from failure? What lessons can failure teach you? Where can you find gratitude in failure? 

We’ve all experienced failure. And honestly, our definition of failure might vary depending on our experiences. So, what is failure ? 

But at its core, failure is defined as a lack of success. Failure is defined as the inability to meet an expectation. Here are some examples of failure: 

• A high school student needs to get an A on a math test to get a B in the class. They study and work with the teacher one-on-one. But when the test results come back, they received a B. This means they will get a C+ in the class. 
• A job seeker recently learned new skills through a workforce development program . They’ve graduated from the program but can’t seem to find a job. They’ve applied to almost 50 jobs with no interviews. 
• An employee recently got promoted to become a people manager . However, in annual performance reviews , they learn their team is really struggling. The team isn’t delivering on its goals. On top of it, the manager is receiving upward feedback that they need to work on their people management skills. 

"We learn more from our failures than from our successes. Not only do we find out what doesn’t work so that we can adjust our future attempts, we learn about ourselves in the process and gain a bit of empathy towards others that might be struggling as well."  Kealy Spring, Leadership Fellow Coach, BetterUp  

People have studied failure. There’s growing research and science around what it means to fail. In fact, failure has been a proven prerequisite for success . But here’s the catch: failure only works to your advantage if you learn from your failures. 

Failure hurts. It doesn’t make us feel good. It can put our perfectionism to the test. It can be difficult to pick ourselves up to try again. 

So, what do you learn from failure? Short answer: a lot more than you think. 

From failure, we learn resiliency. It’s hard to not learn how to build resilience after a failure, especially if you’re determined to overcome failure. 

Resilience is an important life skill to build. And when you build (and learn) resilience, it helps you in other ways, too. Resilience can help you build a growth mindset . It can help you adopt the right behaviors to overcome change . And it can help you build grit, tenacity, and motivation. 

Humility 

Our egos are sensitive. They can grow and evolve into beasts of their own. And most of the time, a healthy dose of failure is good for our ego. It keeps us humble. Failure can teach us how to embody important characteristics, like humility in leadership . 

Flexibility 

Even the best-laid plans are disrupted. And that goes for failures, too. You might’ve set a goal that you’ve realized you’ve overestimated the scope. You’ve learned from your first failure that you need to adjust your goal. Or maybe, you can still achieve your goal. You just need to adjust your approach. 

That’s where flexibility comes in. I often think of the phrase: You can’t do the same thing over and over and expect different results. Failures teach us flexibility, adaptability, and how to overcome obstacles. It teaches us to use change to our advantage. It keeps us nimble and helps us adopt that growth mindset. 

Innovation and creativity 

Much like flexibility, innovation and creativity can present themselves as lessons of failure. 

I studied creative writing. One of my favorite professors used to congratulate us for completing a crappy first draft. He’d say, “Be okay with the crappy first draft. It’ll get better and better your third, fourth, fifth draft.”  

Edison didn’t land the lightbulb on the first, second, or even thousandth try. It took 10,000 tries to perfect the lightbulb. Innovation and creativity take time, iterations, and failures along the way. Practice some patience and Inner Work® to keep the creative juices flowing, even amid failure. 

Motivation 

I’m one of those people who when someone tells me I can’t do something, it makes me that much more determined to prove them wrong. 

Motivation is a valuable and important lesson from failure. Oftentimes, our failures are motivators. For example, let’s say you’re practicing your presentation skills . You’ve done multiple presentations and public speaking opportunities. And you make mistakes along the way. But by your tenth presentation, you finally nail it flawlessly. 

Seeing progress along the way is a big motivator. Failure can help fuel our motivation and help us reach our goals. 

We’re human beings. That means we enter this world with a lot of opportunities for growth and personal development . Together, we’re on this collective journey to better ourselves (and the world around us). But in order to do so, we need to fail. 

It’s important to learn from failure because it brings us one step closer to reaching success. It’s been cited that one in four entrepreneurs fail at their business before succeeding. 

Duke University professor Sim Sitkin dubbed the term “intelligent failures.” Intelligent failures are good for us because it brings us knowledge, value, and insight. What’s important to remember is that we need to pause and reflect. We need to pay close attention to our failures to be able to learn from them. 

There are plenty of learning opportunities hidden in our failures . But how does failure lead to learning? Here are three ways failure leads to learning. 

Failure puts us back to square one

By definition, failure means that we didn’t achieve success. It forces us back to square one, more often than not. 

But after failing, we know that we can’t approach the same task or goal in the same way. We wouldn’t achieve the same result. So, the act of failure inevitably leads to thinking of new ways to overcome obstacles . 

Failure forces us to examine what went wrong 

Reflection is an important part of failure. Without reflection, we wouldn’t learn. It’s important that after we fail, we take a moment to sit with it. 

What about the failure went well? What didn’t go well? Where can we pinpoint what went wrong? It helps us to figure out how to course correct and do it better the next time. 

Failure allows us to innovate 

As the phrase goes, we can’t keep doing the same thing and expect the same results. Innovation is critical to learning. But in order to innovate, we need to know what went wrong. 

Failure leads to learning because we’re able to identify where we went off track. From there, we can implement new ideas, new approaches, and new strategies. All of this results in increased innovation and creativity, which aids us in our learning journey . 

5 tips for learning from failure 

We’ve all failed. But we can learn to fail gracefully to help expedite the learning process . Here are five tips for learning from failure. 

• Don’t give up 
• Adopt a growth mindset 
• Practice Inner Work®
• Be courageous 
• Build mental fitness 

1. Don’t give up 

We’ve all been there. A failure particularly stings and we want to just throw in the towel. 

Here’s your sign that you shouldn’t. Be persistent in pursuit of your dreams. It might take some reframing of perspectives. For example, can you break your big goal into little wins? 

I have a lifelong goal of publishing a book. I’ve tried writing various novels over the years. But the idea of writing a full book sounds so daunting and intimidating. I’ve abandoned my ideas over and over again. 

But now, I’m in a couple of creative writing classes. I’m setting smaller goals for myself. Instead of having a full book as my goal, I’m trying to focus on writing 2,000 words a week. It keeps me motivated and prevents me from giving up. 

"If you recently failed at something, give yourself a moment to process it, feel the emotions whatever they may be, and then work to reframe the perceived failure as an opportunity for growth. Ask yourself, 'what did I learn from that?' It is ultimately about cultivating a growth mindset and celebrating the effort rather than the result." Kealy Spring, Leadership Fellow Coach, BetterUp 

2. Adopt a growth mindset 

You have to want to learn to actually learn from failure. To do this well, you need to adopt a growth mindset. A growth mindset embraces challenges. It perseveres even in failures. People can learn, change, and adapt. It wants to learn and grow. It accepts and embraces constructive feedback and constructive criticism . 

And it’s not easy. But a fixed mindset doesn’t set up anyone for success. Think of ways you can change your perspective around your day-to-day interactions as a start. 

3. Practice Inner Work®  

The science behind Inner Work® shows incredible mental fitness benefits . Inner Work® looks different for everyone. For example, a 30-minute walk in the morning can be your daily Inner Work® . Or a week away from work while you take advantage of your unlimited PTO . Or just a three-minute journaling session or mindful moment . 

Whatever your Inner Work® looks like, practice it. Embed Inner Work® into your daily habits. You’ll find better clarity, more productivity, increased creativity and innovation, and more.   

4. Be courageous 

During the most recent winter Olympics, a video of a four-year-old going snowboarding went viral . The father of the little girl hooked her up to a microphone to record her positive self-talk while she cruises down the mountain. In the video, you can hear her say, “I won’t fall. Maybe I will. That’s OK ‘cause we all fall.” 

To fail takes courage . But to try again after failure takes even more. It’s OK if you fail (and then fail again). But have the courage to get up and try and try again. 

5. Build mental fitness

Hand-in-hand with a growth mindset comes mental fitness. Look at failure as a learning journey. What skills can you pick up along the way? What tools can you add to your toolbox? What new things can you take away from your failures? 

Start building your mental fitness plan with failures as part of your journey. With increased mental fitness , you’ll find yourself better equipped to weather the ups and downs of life. BetterUp can help you on your mental fitness journey. 

Wise words have been said about failure. We’ve compiled ten of our favorite quotes about learning from failure . Here are some words of wisdom to add to your desk or fridge. 

• “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” ― Winston S. Churchill
• “Have no fear of perfection - you'll never reach it.” ― Salvador Dali
• “You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” ― Maya Angelou
• “It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.” ― Theodore Roosevelt
• “Success, after all, loves a witness, but failure can't exist without one.” ― Junot Díaz 
• “I want to do it because I want to do it. Women must try to do things as men have tried. When they fail, their failure must be but a challenge to others.” ― Amelia Earhart
• “Children have a lesson adults should learn, to not be ashamed of failing, but to get up and try again. Most of us adults are so afraid, so cautious, so 'safe,' and therefore so shrinking and rigid and afraid that it is why so many humans fail. Most middle-aged adults have resigned themselves to failure.” ― Malcolm X, The Autobiography of Malcolm X
• “You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.” ― Johnny Cash
•  "It's only when you risk failure that you discover things. When you play it safe, you're not expressing the utmost of your human experience." ― Lupita Nyong'o
• “It's fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.” ― Bill Gates

What do you notice about all of these quotes? What reframing can you bring to your perspective? 

Learn to embrace your failures 

Everyone experiences failure. And oftentimes, it’s the fear of failure that stands in the way of our success. Failure has inherently come with the idea that it’s a bad thing. But in reality, the best failures are the best learners. From business leaders to celebrities, successful people are built on failure. 

With the right mindset and permission to fail, you can learn valuable lessons. Our past failures are a part of the learning experience . And sometimes, it’s the major failures that teach us the most. 

How can you shift your thought process around failure? Can you tackle your fear of failure head-on? Reaching our full human potential means that we’re inevitably bound to fail. But instead of wallowing, try courage. Instead of pity, try grit. Instead of defeat, try persistence. 

Learning to fail can help build your mental fitness, one step at a time. And with strong mental fitness , you can unlock your full potential and achieve your dreams. BetterUp can help. Get started with a coach today. 

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Module 8: Beyond the Classroom

Learning from mistakes, learning objectives.

• Identify strategies for learning from mistakes and from doing poorly on tests or exams

Two of the most important messages that students hear from teachers is “Don’t be afraid to fail” and “Learn from your mistakes—yours, mine, and ours.” The following TedEd talk explores these familiar ideas. The speaker, Diana Laufenberg, makes the case for why learning through experience, feeling empowered, and embracing failure are all so important to students—so much more so than just going to school to get information.

You can view the transcript for “Diana Laufenberg: How to learn? From mistakes” here (opens in new window) .

The idea of “learning from one’s mistakes” seems straightforward enough . . . but how does one actually do it? After all, who isn’t disappointed to get a low grade on anything—a test, a quiz, a paper, a project? We all want to do well. Consider the following college students evaluating their own performance:

I recently took a general biology exam and I was so certain that I got all questions right—that I got a 100 percent on the exam. Then I found out this morning that I got a 94 percent! And what annoys me more than the grade is the fact that my mistakes were dumb. Why did I make dumb mistakes? The tests are timed and I don’t have much time to check my answers. [1]

I’m so mad at myself. I’ve tried everything, I come back to look at the answer after I’ve completed the rest of the test. I go over the answers carefully. It seems as though no matter what I do I can’t catch my mistakes. I just did it on an accounting test. I missed one question because I didn’t notice the answer was “All of the above.” I have the same problem in another class.

At times we can be hard on ourselves, especially if we feel we could have done better. Learning from mistakes takes practice and reinforcement. As Diana Laufenberg pointed out in her Ted Talk, mistakes can be one of the most important events that happen in a classroom, because they tell you where you need to focus next. [2]

After you get over the disappointment of making a mistake in the first place, the next step is to home in on why you made it. That’s the learning opportunity. Below are some tips for following up on—and addressing—a range of errors that students commonly make on exams and other assessments.

Tips for Test Follow-up [3]

Reflection and further study.

For some additional guidance on what to do in the event of failure and how to proceed with your studies, watch Dr. Stephen Chew’s video  I Blew The Exam—Now What?

You can view the transcript for “How to Get the Most Out of Studying: Part 5 of 5, ‘I Blew the Exam, Now What?'” here (opens in new window) .

Chew emphasizes the following points:

What not to do:

• Don’t panic
• Don’t go into denial

What to do:

• Do examine how you prepared; be honest with yourself
• Do review the exam; compare errors with notes taken
• Do talk with your professor
• Do examine your study habits
• Do develop a plan

Helpful strategies to raise your grade:

• Commit time and effort
• Minimize distractions
• Attend class
• Set realistic goals
• Don’t begin to slide
• Don’t give away points

Don’t be the student who . . .

• Keeps studying the same way, hoping to improve
• Waits until the end of the term to ask for help
• Skips class to focus on other classes
• Falls further behind waiting to find time to catch up
• Crams at the last minute
• Doesn’t do assignments because they are small or late
• Panics and gives up

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Essay on Learning From Mistakes

Students are often asked to write an essay on Learning From Mistakes in their schools and colleges. And if you’re also looking for the same, we have created 100-word, 250-word, and 500-word essays on the topic.

Let’s take a look…

100 Words Essay on Learning From Mistakes

Understanding mistakes.

Mistakes are like teachers. When we do something wrong, it is a chance to learn. Imagine you are riding a bike and fall off. That fall teaches you to balance better next time. It’s the same with other mistakes. They show us what not to do, so we can do things right in the future.

Feeling Okay About Mistakes

It’s normal to feel bad when we mess up. But feeling too bad can stop us from trying again. Think of mistakes as steps to getting better. Each mistake is a lesson that helps us grow and improve.

Sharing Our Mistakes

Talking about our mistakes with friends or family can help. They might have made the same mistake and can give advice. Or they can just listen and make us feel better. Sharing helps us understand that everyone makes mistakes, and that’s okay.

Learning and Moving On

After a mistake, think about what went wrong and how to fix it. Then, let it go and move on. Holding onto it won’t help. Remember what you learned, use it next time, and you’ll see that you can do better. Learning from mistakes means growing smarter every day.

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250 Words Essay on Learning From Mistakes

The importance of making mistakes.

Making mistakes is a big part of learning and growing. When we try new things, we often get things wrong before we get them right. Each time we make a mistake, it’s like our brain is taking notes on what not to do next time.

Lessons from Errors

Think of a time you tried to solve a hard math problem and got the wrong answer. You probably went back, looked at your steps, and found where you went wrong. By fixing your mistake, you learned how to solve the problem better. This is how mistakes teach us.

Building Confidence

It might sound strange, but messing up can actually make you more confident. When you learn that it’s okay to make mistakes, you start to worry less about being perfect. You become braver and more willing to try new things, which is really important for learning.

Mistakes and Creativity

Sometimes, when things don’t go as planned, you come up with a new idea you wouldn’t have thought of before. Many great inventions were born from mistakes because the inventor found a new solution when the first plan didn’t work.

In the end, mistakes are not just okay; they are necessary. They make us smarter, braver, and more creative. So next time you mess up, remember that it’s all part of the journey to getting better at whatever you are learning.

500 Words Essay on Learning From Mistakes

What does learning from mistakes mean.

When we talk about learning from mistakes, we mean getting better after something goes wrong. Imagine you’re playing a video game and you keep losing at the same spot. If you figure out what you’re doing wrong and fix it, you’re learning from your mistake. This doesn’t just happen in games. It happens in real life too, like when you get a math problem wrong and then learn the right way to solve it.

Mistakes Are Normal

First, it’s important to know that everyone makes mistakes. Yes, everyone! It’s a part of being human. Think of mistakes as teachers. They show us what not to do, so we can get it right the next time. When you trip over a rock, you learn to watch where you’re walking. That’s a simple example of learning from a mistake.

Feeling Okay About Making Mistakes

It’s normal to feel a bit sad or upset when you make a mistake. But don’t be too hard on yourself. Instead, think of it as a chance to learn. If you didn’t do well on a test, don’t just be sad. Look at the questions you got wrong and learn the right answers. This way, you’ll do better next time. It’s like getting a second chance to prove you can do it!

The Steps to Learning From Mistakes

There are a few steps you can take to learn from your mistakes. First, you need to admit you made a mistake. This can be tough, but it’s very important. Next, think about why the mistake happened. Were you rushing? Did you not understand something fully? Once you know why, you can start to fix it.

After that, it’s time to make a plan. Decide what you will do differently next time to avoid the same mistake. Maybe you’ll study more or ask for help when you don’t understand something. Then, put your plan into action. Try again, using what you’ve learned to do better.

Sharing What You’ve Learned

When you learn something from a mistake, you can also help others. If you see a friend about to do something you’ve done wrong before, you can tell them what you learned. This way, they might not make the same mistake. By sharing, you’re not just helping yourself, but others too.

Mistakes Can Lead to Success

Believe it or not, many successful people made lots of mistakes before they got it right. Famous inventors, scientists, and leaders often failed many times before they succeeded. They didn’t give up, and they didn’t let mistakes stop them. They learned and kept trying.

In conclusion, making mistakes is not the end of the world. It’s actually a big part of how you grow and get better at things. Remember, the next time you make a mistake, don’t just feel bad about it. Use it as a chance to learn and improve. That’s the real secret to getting better at anything you do. So, go ahead and make mistakes, then learn from them and keep moving forward!

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5 ways to turn your mistake into a valuable life lesson.

Self-discipline is like a muscle. Each time you delay gratification and make a healthy choice, you grow mentally stronger.

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Have you ever found yourself saying, “I’ll never do that again,” only to find yourself doing the exact same thing just a short time later? If so, you’re not alone. It’s likely all of us have repeated some of our mistakes at one time or another.

But making the same mistakes over and over can be costly in more ways than one. Perhaps your team has lost faith in you because your behavior doesn’t match your words. Or maybe your errors have cost you or someone else a lot of money.

The good news is, you can take steps to learn from your mistakes. Then, instead of repeating them again, you’ll gain valuable wisdom that will help you in the future.

Here are five ways to learn from your mistakes:

1. Acknowledge Your Errors

So often, leaders say things like, “I’m sorry you felt that way,” or “It’s unfortunate it didn’t work out.” But blaming other people or minimizing your responsibility isn’t helpful to anyone.

Before you can learn from your mistakes, you have to accept full responsibility for your role in the outcome. That can be uncomfortable sometimes, but until you can say, “I messed up,” you aren’t ready to change.

2. Ask Yourself Tough Questions

While you don’t want to dwell on your mistakes, reflecting on them can be productive. Ask yourself a few tough questions:

• What went wrong?

• What could I do better next time?

• What did I learn from this?

Write down your responses and you'll see the situation a little more clearly. Seeing your answers on paper can help you think more logically about an irrational or emotional experience.

3. Make A Plan

Beating yourself up for your mistakes won’t help you down the road. It’s important to spend the bulk of your time thinking about how to do better in the future.

Make a plan that will help you avoid making a similar mistake. Be as detailed as possible but remain flexible since your plan may need to change.

Whether you find an accountability partner or you track your progress on a calendar, find a way to hold yourself accountable. Keep in mind that what works for one person might not work with someone else.

4. Make It Harder To Mess Up

Don’t depend on willpower alone to prevent you from taking an unhealthy shortcut or from giving into immediate gratification. Increase your chances of success by making it harder to mess up again.

As a psychotherapist, I’ve worked with people who have found some creative ways to become more disciplined. I once worked with a woman who blew her budget every month because she shopped online late whenever she was bored.

To prevent herself from having instant access to her cards, she froze her credit cards in a big block of ice. She’d have to wait for the ice to melt to get the number. Whenever she found herself trying to thaw the block of ice, she would pause and realize how ridiculous the situation was and she’d stop short of spending money she didn’t have.

5. Create A List Of Reasons Why You Don’t Want To Make The Mistake Again

Sometimes, it only takes one weak moment to indulge in something you shouldn’t. Creating a list of all the reasons why you should stay on track could help you stay self-disciplined, even during the toughest times.

I once worked with a woman who wanted to stop talking to her ex-boyfriend. She knew he wasn’t good for her but she couldn’t’ resist answering the phone whenever he called.

She created a list of all the reasons why she shouldn’t talk to him—it was bad for her mental health, they were toxic together, etc. She laminated the list and taped it to the back cover of her phone. Whenever he called, she’d turn her phone over and begin to read over the list. It helped her resist the temptation to answer the phone.

Move Forward With Your New-Found Wisdom

Sometimes, mistakes aren’t just one big blunder. Instead, they’re a series of little choices that lead to failure.  So pay attention to your errors, no matter how big or how small they might seem. And recognize that each mistake can be an opportunity to build mental muscle  and become better.

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